Penis Envy: My Perfect Strapon Cock

Penis Envy: My Perfect Strapon Cock
And A Few Essential Strapon Tips

When shopping, I find it impossible to find the right dick. So if there are any bespoke fabricators out there, this would be my perfect strapon cock in style, looks, and design.
Yes! I thought I would pass on my wisdom to strapon manufacturers everywhere. You’re welcome 😉

Length & Texture
Long enough to stay put without slipping out mid-thrust. I like to be able to maneuver it around, watch the cock slide in and out, so need some extra length, (also great for filming otherwise you see nothing as it’s all disappeared inside.) If you want girth it should increase as it get deeper, so a cock that widens at the base. With big balls to act as a bumper – no accidental hilt-deep surprises. The anus has two sphincters: the outer one you control; the inner one auto-relaxes top-down (nature’s poop highway). A fingering at the start is essential to trigger the inner muscle, to relax both. Short dildos keep popping out like a bad jack-in-the-box and don’t always reach that 2nd sphincter. A long, slim, dick keeps the party inside.

The Tip
The tip/head/glans should be smaller than the rest of the cock helping entry. The cock should be mainly smooth (preferably not cut) not creating a place for any mess to lodge itself. Easier entry, no poop-trapping nooks.

Soft Top, Stiff Base
The top half of the total length should be super-soft jelly silicone. Bends like a drunk noodle, follows rectum curves, finds the path of least resistance. Graduating to the base which should be firm and proud. Lets you pound away without folding like origami, or worse, slipping out and ruining the rhythm. Control the chaos!
Quality silicone is my choice for its soft feel, realism and ease of cleaning, (soak in Milton for 20 mins is ideal, or use a condom!)

Big Balls
Non-Negotiable!
Huge, heavy wrinkled balls are essential for me, I want my sub to snuffle, lick and suck on them – so humiliating and the perfect opportunity for hot, sexy eye contact. Peak shame. Plus they serve a function, they stop you stuffing the whole thing inside. Like a car bumper – yes let’s get those cocks “balls deep” but no more!

For Anal Fucking Machines the same idea, but even longer, thin soft tip + rock-hard base, no balls needed. And, remember machines don’t get tired, but rectums do, don’t let them file a complaint!

Realistic – Penis Envy
I like a strapon cock that looks and feels as realistic as possible, red head, soft jelly skin.
I want it to feel like My cock when strapped on. Realistic veins, yes sure but if realism clashes with function (like a giant ridge that traps… debris), function wins. My priorities are it looks hot, but not hazardous.

Male Anatomy 101 – Angles Matter
When using a strapon it’s important to know where the prostate and the bowel sit in a male’s body. Remembering that strapon cocks are usually much harder and bigger that real dicks and so can easily damage the inside of the bowel.

  • Doggy style: Cock curves up. Prostate… hook finger down to nudge it.

  • Missionary*: Cock angles back toward their butt (vagina-ish). Prostate sits up front, hook finger up and in like you’re scooping gold.

If you are fucking a sub from behind, then the cock is going up. To gently finger the prostate hook your finger in and down. If you are fucking them on their back which is easier and preferable, then the dick is going back towards their bottom, a similar angle to a woman’s vagina. However, to finger the prostate (which sits up almost at the back of the cock), you need to hook your finger up and in to rub it.
So, r
espect the plumbing or pay the price. 

Bottom line: Realistic, long, soft-tipped, hard-based, big-balled – that’s my kinda cock! Now go forth and conquer those butts – safely.

* Missionary is my preferred view btw, I can stare at them while I pound them. If I’m feeling mean I can spit in their face; or in a sexy mood I can grab their cock and move it in similar motion to the fucking.

Interested in thoughts from those on the receiving end, in the comments. MSVB

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Maneaters – Femdom Top Ten Music Chart

Welcome to The English Mansion’s
Maneaters – Femdom Top Ten Music Chart
Our musical Top Tens dedicated to all things kinky

Well this was a very eclectic mix with songs from every decade from the 1960’s to today. With so much choice from kinky boots walking all over you to humiliating his small penis! There’s lots of fur in this Top Ten in the title of Venus in Furs but also donned by Madonna, Eartha Kit & Marilyn Monroe. Oh, I just found it funny to include Cliff 🙂 Not surprisingly there were a lot of contenders, leaving quite a few excellent tracks that didn’t make it into the Top Ten.

Maneaters – Femdom Top Ten
1    These Boots are Made for Walking
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1   Kinky Boots
Nancy Sinatra (1966)

Patrick Macnee & Honor Blackman (1960)

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2   Erotica
Madonna (1992) Play Video
3   Maneater
Hall & Oats (1982)
or
Nelly Furtado (2006)
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4   Short Dick Man
20 Fingers ft.Gillette (1995) Play Video
5   Killer Queen
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5   Boss Bitch
Queen (1974)
Doja Cat (2020)
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6   DADDY Victoria De Angelis (of Måneskin) & Ashnikko (2025) Play Video
7    Independent Woman
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Bad Girls
Destiny’s Child (2001)
M.I.A. (2012)
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8   Venus
Bananarama (1986) Play Video
Queen Of Pain
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9    Sexy & I Know It
The Cramps (1997)
LMFAO (2011)
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10 Wicked Game
Chris Isaak (1989) Play Video

Contenders that didn’t quite make it into our Top Ten:

I’m Too Sexy by Right Said Fred (1992) Play Video
Venus In Furs
by Velvet Underground (1967) Play Video
Sisters Are Doin’ It for Themselves
Eurythmics/Aretha Franklin (1985) Play Video
I Wanna Be Evil
by Eartha Kitt(1953) Play Video
Evil Woman by ELO (1976) Play Video
“In These Shoes?” by Kirsty MacColl (2000) Play Video
Devil Woman by Cliff Richard (1976) Play Video
The Female of the Species
by Space (1996) Play Video


The English Mansion’s Kinky Music Charts

Take a look at our other musical Top Tens dedicated to all things kinky
~ to be included the rules are: they must be big hits or tracks from internationally well-known performers.

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MSVB’s Femdom Blog: 17 Million Views & Counting!

World Peace… Achieved.  And all it took was a little more rope, some ball gags, a few canes and plenty of “yes Mistress.”

MSVB’s Femdom Blog: 17 Million Views & Counting!
Yes, Mistress Sidonia’s Femdom Blog has just hit another wonderful milestone — 17 million views since we started counting back in August 2010! We used to celebrate hitting each new million every two years, then it sped up to every year, and now we only reached 16 million, just six months ago!  That’s roughly 85,000 visits every month from people all over the world who are curious about female domination, fetish, and the wider world of BDSM.

100,000 followers on X/Twitter
We’ve also reached 100,000 followers on X/Twitter, (though a recent platform purge has caused a small dip.) We’re also on BlueSky here for anyone who has moved over https://bsky.app/profile/englishmansion.bsky.social

Celebrating 17 Million Views!
A big thank you to all our regular readers, members, fellow dominatrices, kink enthusiasts, and everyone who has supported the blog along the way. Your visits and encouragement have made this possible. Whether you’re brand new to femdom and BDSM, an experienced player, a dominant, a submissive, a kinkster or simply a curious vanilla visitor who wants to learn more — you’re very welcome here! This blog is designed as a friendly, inclusive space to help you discover and understand the unique world of Female Domination and BDSM.

Where The Strong Are Worshipped & The Weak Are Crushed

This blog is an inclusive hub of all things femdom, BDSM & Fetish

Profiles & Links to some of the World’s Top Dominatrices
In-depth Femdom, BDSM & Fetish articles
 Fetish Art, Photography & Comics    Kinky Music Charts
Specialist BDSM Equipment & Shops    Femdom fiction
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MSVB’s (My) personal philosophy or general musings on Femdom
Exciting updates from The English Mansion: New Femdom Films,
3D-VR Experiences & Introducing New Mansion Dominas

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7 Ways To Turn A Man Into Your Slave

Stunning Miss Vivienne Hardy shows her boy who’s on top in their relationship!


7 Ways To Turn a Man Into Your Slave
Some Basic Femdom BDSM Slave Training Tips

1. Give Him a New Name
this helps in the process of making him let go of his old self and become something you created. It also helps re-enforce his new status as your property.

2. Keep Him in Chastity
you retain the key and establish the rules about its use and when, if ever, he is allowed any self-pleasure.

3. Make Him Wear a Sign of Ownership
24/7 he should be made to wear a sign of his owned status. Collars are a standard item but are not practical for everyday wear. While until the relationship reaches a true maturity a tattoo or branding are also not appropriate (these should NOT be entered into lightly). However, a discreet piercing or secret item of jewelery, for ex. a ring or chain should be worn at all times. You could even make him paint his toe nails pink.

4. Set Out a Way for Him to Greet You
Assuming you are meeting in a private environment, he should be tutored in how to formally greet you (this is the first time he has seen you after a period of absence). This can be a position to get into: kneeling down, hands-on-head, face lowered; or to get down on his knees and kiss your shoes. If you meet out in public you may also need a special clandestine greeting like a discreet hand kiss.

(I know for prodoms this will likely be to kiss their boots but it was always super horny for me with certain personal slaves, to have them come up to me pull down my undies and lick my arse whenever first in my presence. I liked how it set the tone for the meeting, reminding them of their place in my world.)

5. Require Him to Carry Out Menial or Hard Labour Tasks
He must regularly complete a supervised task, this should be housework, gardening or admin. This is of course useful and a service to you but it has a more important purpose; it reinforces his menial status, keeps him occupied and crucially keeps his body physically tired and thus less likely to edge towards any recalcitrance.

I have set long physical tasks (or exercise programs alongside reduced calorie diets) for willful slaves as I like to have their bodies fully exhausted before I start to break them psychologically 🙂 Plus if you are a proponent of female supremacy it’s the perfect way to address the current gender bias towards housework. Let’s get the boys scrubbing!

6. Demand Obedience 
If he transgresses from any of your rules he must be punished for these infractions. Punishments are usually corporal, like a physical beating but they should fit the slave to make sure they really are unpleasant, and thus a proper penalty. So a slave who enjoys CP could, for ex. have his time in chastity extended. (Continued disobedience should result in dismissal.)

7. Enforce a Submissive Demeanour
This demeanor and attitude should be enforced across every aspect of his relationship with you, for ex., where he may sit, how he should address you, used for your WS etc. I also believe that fucking him regularly with a strapon cock is a perfect way to indoctrinate him further into submission. For personal slaves this should encompass sexual submission to you where he must be schooled in the art of sexually pleasuring you.

Gorgeous Mistress Courtney has this man where she wants him!

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Circus Maximus: Wild Nights in the Realm of Kink

Circus Maximus: Wild Nights in the Realm of Kink

Themed Alternative Fetish Play & Swing Parties
Hosted by the Unrivaled Queen of Ceremonies, Mistress Vivienne l’Amour at Celestial Studios, Derby, Midlands, UK.

Hear ye, mighty lords and ladies, sinners and deborchers! Prepare to bend the knee (or whatever else you fancy bending) at Circus Maximus, the most decadent gathering in all the Kingdoms of Pleasure.

Now held every three moons (four times a year) on selected Saturday nights, the banners of lust are raised high at Celestial Studios in Derby, where the daring Mistress Vivienne l’Amour reigns supreme as the true Queen of the Kink Realm.

This is no place for the faint of heart or the prudish of spirit. Here, in a judgment-free Red Keep of revelry, desires run wilder than a Dothraki horde. RACK (Risk-Aware Consensual Kink) is the only law, and play is not merely encouraged — it is celebrated with fire and blood (and plenty of lube).
Left: Mistress Vivienne Maximus’ Reigning Queen and host.

Expect cabaret performances that will make even a Dragon Queen blush, kinky sideshows twisted enough to impress the Faceless Men and a crowd so electric it could power the Iron Throne. (Yes, Moi, MSVB will be performing at some of the CM Events.)

Sigil of your Intent
Upon arrival, you shall be gifted a Traffic Light Wristband — the sigil of your intent:
Green means “I am ready to conquer and be conquered — come claim me.”

Amber whispers “Approach with words and wit; let us parley before we plunder.”
Red declares “I am here to watch the games…and keep my own chambers exclusive this night.”

A Feast For Flesh: Four Nights of Carnal Conquest
A Playground of Decadence ~ Each Circus Maximus transforms Celestial Studios into a lavish themed realm of sin and splendor. Guests are commanded to attire themselves in garments worthy of the occasion, matching the opulent decorations that turn the venue into a living tapestry of debauchery. Dress Code: Dress for the theme; Smart Sexy; or Fetish.

This year’s grand saga unfolds under the banner of four legendary nights:
Ritus Carnalis ~ Saturday 25/04/2026 
The Rite is Sacred. The Flesh is Willing.
Abyssus ~ Saturday 20/06/2026 
The Deeper you go. The Darker it gets.
Noctis Imperium ~ Saturday 31/10/2026 
Obedience in Shadow, ecstasy in blood.
Dominus Anulorum ~ Saturday 12/12/2026 
One Ring To Bind, One Will to Rule.

Past Circus Maximus themes have included:

The Rocky Horror Picture Show, Berserkyr, Angels and Demons, Reign of Terror and Seven Deadly Sins.
Because why choose just one sin when you can indulge in all?

Right: Mistress Sidonia & Mistress Vivienne at Seven Deadly Sins -In case you are wondering, I was ‘Gluttony’ in a cabaret – the sub had a lot to consume.


Within the Maximus Arena you shall find:

♣    A gloriously wicked clientele

♣    Explosive acts that rival the greatest tourneys
♣ Interactive & immersive experiences worthy of the finest brothels in King’s Landing
♣   Fetish-themed playrooms designed to break both bodies and inhibitions
♣    A warm welcome to all houses — especially our LGBTQ+ allies
♣   A licensed bar (for liquid courage), changing room and secure lockers.

Celestial Studios 
This hidden citadel is tucked away just outside Derby (conveniently near the A50 and M1 Junction 24, with free parking and a discreet exterior), lies Celestial Studios — a 250 year-old warehouse reborn as the ultimate pleasure palace by the visionary Mistress Vivienne l’Amour.

This is just a tiny peak at some of the play spaces within…

Two vast floors overflow with wonders: a shadowy medieval dungeon (for those who enjoy a bit of the old gods’ justice), a cold prison cell (perfect for recalcitrant prisoners),  clinical medical suite, lavish boudoirs dripping with luxury and daring golden suspension rigs. With loyal staff and vigilant dungeon monitors ensuring the peace, Circus Maximus offers unbridled adventures in a safe corner of the realm.

Circus Maximus Events
Fancy swearing fealty to the Queen of Kink? Check the website for tickets and claim your place in this year’s legendary sagas.
Find out more from their website Circus Maximus Events
Follow on Twitter/X: @CircusMaximusGB
or Link Tree Celestial Derby & see above for the 2026 dates & themes.

Check out all the Events at Celestial this year – 2026

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