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10 True Facts About Mistress Sidonia

Posted on 07/03/2018 by Mistress Sidonia

The birth of a Living Legend 😉

These days I’m continually told I’m a ‘Living Legend’ I recognise it’s meant to be a compliment but it’s a strange tribute making me feel like some kind of ancient myth. And life on a pedestal is not always a comfortable one, there’s only room for one and only one way to go once you are up there – down; but I guess it is an inevitable platitude as I have through The English Mansion opened up my life sharing my musings and exploits as a dominatrix. If there is any kind of legacy I hope my enthusiasm for femdom will seep into the modern consciousness shoring up feminism and encouraging women to explore and enjoy their sexualities whatever their inclinations.

So given many dommes seems to be blogging/vlogging 10 facts about themselves etc. I thought I’d jump on the bandwagon but as readers here are already familiar with my BDSM life and loves, I though I’d let you all know a few lesser facts about moi and why I probably do deserve that legendary status 😉

10 Absolutely True Facts About Mistress Sidonia

1. Once swapped an enema for a car (a 5 Series BMW).

2. Was life banned from two fetish clubs for being too outrageous, Fantastic in Brixton & Spank in Bristol; and given a serious warning at The Skin Two Ball in Hammersmith and only not ejected from the club because she knew the promoters.

Receiving my Erotic Oscar in 1997 from the lead singer of Rockbitch – hey they know how to do award ceremonies at The Sex Manics Ball. And at Torture Garden in the mid ’90s.

3. Was punched unconscious by a (real) nun in the full wimple and habit (she was ironically from a convent called The Good Shepherd Sisters.)

4. Has been skiing in Iran.

5. Was asked to leave The Ritz hotel when a person in her party, a now retired prodom, who will remain nameless, mooned at Margaret Thatcher.

6. Has lived in two stately houses.

7. Was queueing outside Torture Garden, Shepherds Bush when it was closed by the police and was inside at Club Whiplash, Putney when it was raided by the police.

Yep that’s me on the flyer & I’m denounced in the subsequent newspaper expose (1993) which was ridiculous, salacious and of course utterly untrue. My favourite line being “The music was loud but the whipping was louder!” The club won the case and the police got a rap on the knuckles for wasting tax payers money but sadly it led to the demise of Club Whiplash.

8. Received a gift and was taken to the theatre by Lady Diana, Princess of Wales.

9. Involved in the accidental destruction of two works of art: a Salvador Dali & a Peter Blake (I am mightily ashamed of this).

10. Has been awarded a number of infamous fetish awards including an Erotic Oscar 1997 at The Sex Manics Ball; & The Ivar Gold Golden Cane 2003, (being a show-off and trying to interject a little humour she won this ‘best caning award’ while blindfolded).

Attending a Prostitution Pride March (in disguise) in the ’90s (not sure we’re selling it) – insert chatting with Cynthia Payne

Note: the unscrupulous click bait title is supposed to be ironic it was nearly, “10 thing about Mistress Sidonia & her cute Kitten that You Need to Know!” Though I do apologise for the ceaseless name dropping but hey getting Cynthia Payne, Margaret Thatcher & Salvador Dali all in is impressive (and that wasn’t even all of them) and finally, re. living legend my tongue is firmly in my cheek 🙂

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All Wrapped Up – Mummification

Posted on 01/03/2018 by Mistress Sidonia

My attempt to reproduce an Egyptian mummification pattern using two separate wraps using masking tape.

Mummification is a type of BDSM extreme bondage play whereby the sub is wrapped from head to toe in a flexible material like bondage tape, pallet wrap or cling film, with just a breathing tube or the nose being left uncovered. One of the best swaddling materials is vet wrap because it is so mouldable, it comes in great colours and you can bind using elaborate wrap patterns as used in Egyptian mummification.

The head is in vet wrap and the body in black pallet wrap, the subbie was then placed inside a bondage box/coffin with a foam cut-out. With the gorgeous Mistress T in attendance.

You can also use purpose made bondage bags and sleep sacks in leather, rubber or plastic which have the advantage of being a very quick way to encase someone. They do, however, lack the intensity of a mummification wrap and its main advantage – their ephemeral nature. It is a sublimely creative process, each mummification is different, each sub becomes an objet d’art. You can cut holes where you want them, soak them in pee or drop wax all over them 🙂 and once the play is over, just cut it carefully off and throw it all into the bin.

I always fancied one of my mummifications might have a good chance at The Turner Prize! I once mummified a slave and left him on show during a party I was having. I taped a box over his genitals labelled ‘Grope Box’ it was a huge hit with all the ladies present 😉

Wrapped in black bondage tape and then roped tightly down to a bondage bed.

To increase the intensity of the wrap, layers can be added over the top of the initial mummification: rope or belts used; they can be placed inside a sack; or taped down onto a board. Inflexible parcel tape over cling-film which creates a kind of hard case, is one of my favourites. The pinnacle of mummification in terms of restriction are body (plaster) casts!

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A half body mummification with blue vet wrap – ideal access for a CBT scene with the stunning Goddess Lexi Sindel.

And, I have spent many a wicked hour planning ways to make my mummifications tighter and more restrictive, hence building a bondage coffin with foam insert. See here: Adventures in Bondageland.

This extreme bondage is very sexual and super *hot* for me, I always cut out the genitals so I have full access to them. The sub becomes no longer a person but a giant sex-toy for my use. Faceless and dehumanised, a creature I have created for my pleasure…

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Wrapped in cling-film and then (inflexible) silver parcel tape, this was then taped down to a board. (Care must be taken to inflate the lungs during the mummification when using parcel tape as it is so inflexible.)

I have always been fascinated with the psychological aspects of mummification play. It is the most extreme type of bondage as the participant is completely incapacitated and in a state of extreme sensory deprivation. As the dominant it allows me total control! I can do anything I want to my charge, even their breathing is controlled my me. It also give me total responsibility for their safety, this creates a powerful bond of trust between us.

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Wrapped in a Lycra tube (used in skirt making), rope was added over the top, then they were roped down to the bondage table.

For the sub there is the effect of the immobilisation – this allows a meditative state, complete submission and a total focus on me as all-powerful. An unconscious return to the womb, in a sense I am mother and will take care of everything. While the sendep focuses the sub on my touch and whatever I choose to impart – I may tease, caress or hurt them. They exist through me and for me. This is a heady delight for any dominant.

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Animal Farm: Training & Taming Males

Posted on 28/02/2018 by Mistress Sidonia

Goddess Serena & her pet puppy

Training & Taming Males – Animal Play
Role playing an animal can have a huge appeal – animals don’t speak or think, or even walk upright. They are owned and trained to be obedient but also loved and even pampered. You can let go of your humanity and immerse yourself in a new alien mindset. Animal play has obvious parallels to Dom/Sub play, most notably the collar & leash and the desire to be owned.

The psychology of human animal role-play generally falls into two categories: Pampered Pets & Dehumanised Animals there is however, much cross-over and many of the actualities of the play is the same.

Pampered Pets
Pets want to immerse themselves into the role of a human animal and relish being dressed up and trained, most usually as a puppy or dressage pony though you do also get latex kittens. What appeals to them and their ‘owners’ is the innate characteristics of an animals nature that come into play, these being: obedience; loyalty; devotion; total reliance on their owners, instinctively wanting to please; and the need to be trained.

Pampered Pets enjoy being playful and petted while well behaved human pups can also be quite pampered by adoring dom owners and shown off in public. Pet ponies especially can be kitted out with elaborate harnesses and bells. I was once quite jealous when I saw an amazing well-trained human Dalmatian puppy walking around Erotica one year.

Click on an image to view the Animal Farm slide show:

Dehumanised Animals
This is where men are turned into animals by their cruel Mistresses as a means to totally humiliate and literally dehumanise them. Useless, old or disobedient slaves are reduced to dogs, pigs or workhorses to totally break and humiliate them. It’s the end of the line, he is no longer even a lowly slave, from now on he is not even human any more. He will no longer be able to talk or walk upright. If necessary he can be kept gagged and put in hobble chains (chains that are not long enough for you to stand in). He will eat her scraps from a bowl on the floor (mittens can be used to stop him using his hands).

This can be an extreme punishment/humiliation for a slave, he may have already lost much of his sense of self, his name ect. but now he will not even be treated as human anymore. Ponies also make useful beasts of burden to carry dominant women from place to place, why should they walk when they can ride. So whatever the animal extensive corrective training will be needed.

You can watch dominant women training & taming males in these two recent English Mansion releases with Goddess Serena, Mistress Inka & Miss Marilyn, right now inside our members area: A Puppy’s Tale & Pounding The Pony.

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The Cane – The Classic English Discipline Tool Pt 1

Posted on 21/02/2018 by Mistress Sidonia

“I hope you’re paying attention boys… the lesson is about to begin.” Well if Lady Nina was your teacher you’d have a problem concentrating 🙂

The English Cane
This is probably the implement most associated with Corporal Punishment. There is something very emotive about this traditional, English disciplinary tool. Part of the cane’s mysticism is the ritual and theatre associated with its application. This is as much about psychological torment and fear as it is the actual beating. Making the condemned wait, sometimes hours or days in anticipation. The flexing of the rod as a scolding takes place. Then, finally, the rite itself: having the reprobate bent over a desk, or a chair, or perhaps touching their toes as the shorts/skirt is lifted and the panties lowered. Traditionally administered in half-dozen batches ominously referred to as ‘six of the best’.

Caning is an art that involves more than the technical ability to apply an accurate stroke – to master it you must understand its psychology. To the uninitiated, a caning may seem rather staid but I can assure you, a heavy caning is one of the most painful and intense forms of CP you can receive. To quote one Mansion sub “Just one stroke can take you right to your limit, the pain is like a depth charge that sinks into your flesh and then explodes!”

There are many types of cane, which are actually tropical grasses, reeds or palms characterized by knuckles or joints where the new segment of growth shoots off. Bamboo cane is probably the best known but it is not really suitable for CP as it is inflexible. The best types of cane to use are those that come from the climbing palm or rattan family as these have a flexible stem. There are enormous varieties of rattans, with innumerable differing qualities. The most popular varieties for making a punishment cane are Kooboo, Dragon, Palambang and Malacca.

No two canes are ever identical, as they are natural products, grown, not manufactured. There are an endless variety of rattans. Thickness, flexibility, curvature, colouring and surface finish all vary. Often canes are named and graded by their increased length and thickness: Junior Cane 8mm diameter, Senior Cane 10mm and Reformatory Cane 12mm plus. Lengths usually range from 30in to 36in. Most standard canes are made from Kooboo. For more serious punishments try a Dragon cane as the rattan is denser and slightly stiffer than Kooboo. It also has a very smooth surface which helps it fly through the air faster.

Domina Liza with a beautiful vintage knuckled Malacca cane

Another heavier implement is the ferrule originally a Victorian walking cane made from the very thick and heavy rattan Malacca. I have come across so-called ‘fibre-glass’ canes and ‘dressage or show’ canes (canes covered with leather), which are not really canes at all, both are very severe implements that I would suggest only advanced players consider using. Probably the fiercest canes are those used for Singapore judicial punishments, made from stripped manner rattan they are approximately 15mm thick and 50 inches long.

Crook or Straight Handle
So why do canes have crook handles? I have to say I’m not exactly sure, as I have found lots of different explanations. One being that originally walking canes were used to beat people with so the crook handle is just a remnant of this. I have also read that the crook was used to stop the cane slipping out of the hands during a vigorous thrashing. The crook was also used to hang the cane up so it would be a constant reminder to errant young children. Well the crook handle is certainly associated with the school cane. I don’t think the handle makes much of a difference to the cane, many people just have a personal preference. Some straight canes have some kind of added handle, which does make them easier to use.

Short or long & thick or thin
Canes come in a huge variety of lengths and thickness. I would suggest that a beginner use a short, lightweight cane. The longer the cane the more swing, the greater the arc, equaling a more painful stroke. Remember the longer the cane the more difficult it is to control. The weight of the cane changes the sensation and intensity of the stroke. The thinner the cane the more ‘stingy’ and biting it feels. While thicker canes are heavier, more ‘thumpy’ and tend to bruise the skin. With more weight they penetrate more deeply.

Read the full article here:
Part 1 The Cane – The Classic English Discipline Tool
Part 2 The Cane – The Classic English Discipline Tool
Part 3 The Cane – The Classic English Discipline Tool

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Gender Reversal – Retro Sexist Adverts

Posted on 14/02/2018 by Mistress Sidonia

In A Parallel Universe is a series of photographic images which recreate real advertisement posters from the 1950s ‘Mad Men’ era. However, artist and photographer Eli Rezkallah from Beirut, Lebanon has taken these sexist and condescending retro images of women and reversed the gender roles in his modern-day makeover.

From disciplinary spankings to claims a woman’s place is in the kitchen, these vintage adverts are rife with sexism, disturbing female objectification and thankfully nowadays laughable stereotypes. His droll twist on these ads cast a spotlight onto notions of gender roles and sexism and hopefully for the world at large will spark a conversation about modern-day gender discrimination. While for us progressives in femdom 🙂 they’re not that surprising!

Just to clarify the smaller images are all genuine published advertisments!

© Photography by Eli Rezkallah, produced by Plastik Studios 2018.
You can see all of the images in this set here elirezkallah.com as well as some of his other fabulous photography.

Kitchen Bimbo to Sex Object
But… before we all think it’s safe to open the magazines – sadly the sexism is still there it’s just more subtle and dressed up with a bit more gloss and glamour. ‘She’ may have moved out of the kitchen but is still an object, now a sex object subject to male power.

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A Day in the Life of a House Sissy

Posted on 07/02/2018 by Mistress Sidonia

An Account of a Day as the sissy maid of Lady Nina Birch

8.00 am
I awake in my sheer nightie edged with faux fur. Each night I am bound in ropes and sleep at the end of my Mistress’s bed. It is a sweet torment being so close to my wonderful owner and I have learnt to get a little sleep, despite the biting ropes.She frees me and I go to wash and then to prepare her breakfast.

9.00 am
I serve Lady Nina Breakfast in bed, her favourite salmon and scrambled eggs, she is very exact at how I cook them, it has taken a long time and many punishments to learn the correct way. She enjoys a refreshing Buck’s Fizz made with the best Champagne, it makes me very happy to see the enjoyment of my labours. I then start to prepare her clothes which I will dress her in, following the commands and outfits she has chosen for the day. This morning she discovers I have been very lax and did not iron her dress correctly yesterday, there was a deep crease that evaded my checking, I await my fate.

10.00 am
Bad start to the day, Lady Nina decides to punish me for not ironing her dress correctly and then gives me an impromptu inspection of my clothes, I knew I should have worn my regulation plain panties but I couldn’t resist the cute satin ones, they feel so nice and smooth! I am given a long OTK spanking and a slippering, my cheeks are now glowing deep red and throbbing, reminding me to always try harder and to not disappoint my Superior.

11.00 am
I spent the rest of the morning tidying up and cleaning the kitchen, making sure I cleaned all the hidden out of sight areas because Lady Nina is an expert at checking my work and I don’t want to displease her and make her have to punish me with the cane, not after last weeks thrashing, the marks are just starting to fade. I must prove to her that I listen and appreciate the training regime she has me following.

12 noon
Lady Nina inspects my work, she still make me shiver with fear and excitement, her beauty overwhelms me as I await the verdict on my mornings chores, she gives me a 7 out of 10, managing to find some places I missed and the lack of quality of the cleaning. I am devastated to let her down again and she soon disciplines me, tying my hands up to a kitchen cupboard, lifting my petticoat and maids uniform and placing biting pegs on my balls before slapping them, making me moan for forgiveness. Lady Nina then asks me how many hard crops to the bum I should get, I want to impress her and say 20, she gives me 100, making me wail in discomfort, I am such a slow learner sometimes. Lady Nina then put pegs all over my dicklet and tell me to get on with preparing her lunch which I then serve her all the while in discomfort.

2.00pm
Lady Nina is always trying to improve my feminine ways and demeanour and today after lunch I was given a super big fun surprise! My Mistress told me she had something exciting in store for me and I was placed in the bondage chair and blindfolded. My mind was racing in overload at what it may be, when I heard the boudoir door open and could smell the sweet perfume of another lady who was to told to come and caress me, my little dicklet was straining at this added female attention, I felt so lucky. My blindfolded was removed and I recognised Dominant Dolly, I was a big fan of her, especially her thick cock that she used to dominate special girls like me.

I was all coy and shy and could not think of a word to say as my mind went blank, the two Dommes laughing and humiliating me in my predicament. Lady Nina then explained that my mouth was going to be used and fucked hard, for my first ever taste of dick and how lucky I was going to be, as it is DD’s that will take my oral virginity. I didn’t have much time to consider as Lady Nina soon pulled the hard cock out of DD’s bulging panties and guided it towards me, telling me to lick the head, tasting my first precum, it was so delicious that I could not wait for more of it to be fed into my slutty mouth. I was soon bobbing up and down, loving the warm feeling, it felt so natural to be dominated this way as I followed every instruction and tried my best. Dominant Dolly gave me a rating when my training had finished, I was a little embarrassed to only get 4 out of 10 and she promised to give me instruction and extra tuition to help improve on that, I can hardly wait.

5.00pm
I get the exciting news that Lady Nina has invited some of her friends for an evenings soirée and I am expected to serve the Mistresses and to be on my finest behaviour and not be an embarrassment! I am allowed 1 hour to make myself presentable and waste no time, shaving my body, reapplying my makeup and making sure my best Maid Uniform is pressed and presentable. After checking myself in the mirror, I practice my curtseys over and over until they look almost dainty.

6.00pm
So excited, I go to the kitchen and start to bake the scones, prepare the jams and clotted creams and arrange the best table for all the required sittings. I make sure there is enough Champagne chilling and quiver at the anticipation of meeting such wonderful, powerful ladies who are all arriving at around 7pm.

10.00pm
Wow, what a day, I am, in a bit of a state at the moment, my makeup and best outfit is ruined, I should have known the ladies would use me as a urinal as I kept the drinks flowing, they kept my mouth busy, eventually just peeing on me whenever they wanted. It was amazing being under them and feeling their special warmth as it flowed over me. In between serving, I received multiple punishments, anything from spanking, cropping, caning, having my mouth and face covered in spit, chastity covered cock slapped and humiliated. So wonderful, seeing how proud Lady Nina was as I did my best, making sure the comfort of the ladies were always my most important priority. My Mistress said I had tried very hard today and she was pleased, this caused me to blush and feel so happy, the cheeks on my face almost reaching the colour of my bum cheeks.

11.00pm
After tidying myself up and having a shower, I put on the nightie that Lady Nina had chosen for me, a baby pink with lace frills. I knocked on her boudoir door and after waiting patiently for ten minutes was beckoned in to give my beautiful Owner her pre bed foot massage and to hear her view of how my day’s training had been. I really enjoy oiling and slowly but firmly rubbing her wonderful, delicate feet, I have become a skilled practitioner of the art and the sensual feeling and pleasure I give make me very happy. I am told that I have done fairly well today, with a couple of compliments about my behaviour along with some areas for me to improve, which have been noted in my punishment book, to be dealt with in the morning. I am told that I will have to sleep on the floor with a chain around my neck and a rough blanket to keep me warm as I have not quite earned the privilege of sleeping on the bottom of the bed tonight, I am just grateful to be in the same room as my perfect Owner – the divine Lady Nina Birch.

by sissy slave B

Some of the photos from this story are taken from the film A Day in the Life of House Sissy Pts 1,2 & 3 featuring Lady Nina Birch, now showing

Lady Nina Birch
Lady Nina Birch is the UK’s foremost feminatrix with many years of experience and understanding (and an extensive wardrobe) on crossdressing and full-feminisation. She also specialises in domestic discipline as both a dom wife & cock controlling cougar.

You can find our more about Lady Nina Birch here on her personal website
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