Kink In The Archive III

Mistress Sidonia  & Miss Marilyn

Reviving 150+ Years of Kink
Kink in the Archive is an annual event (launched in 2022), held at London’s Bishopsgate Institute.  It brings the UK Leather and Fetish Archive – which covers over 150 years of fetish, BDSM, leather, rubber, latex, and related subcultures – vividly to life through immersive, after-hours experiences. Attendees can dress in their kinky best (only if they want) and engage with rare ephemera while enjoying; live demonstrations, film screenings, panel discussions with kink professionals and artists, performances, talks and exhibitions that blend historical exploration with contemporary kink culture.

Kink In The Archive III :
Not Your Average Valentine’s Date Night

The latest iteration, Kink in the Archive III curated by Content Warning – Helena and Harlan Whittingham took place this past Saturday the 14th of February 2026. With an unforgettable evening of fetish history, live kink culture and collective curiosity—not your average Valentine’s date night! It was a packed schedule – exhibitions, screenings, talks, performances, and readings. Events were happening simultaneously across the vast building; it was impossible to keep up with everything.

A Dynamic Dive into Kink’s Past & Present

In The Reading Room, live readings brought rare historical erotica to life. Highlights included Miss Marilyn delivering a captivating, highly performative rendition from her book Rotten Apple: Shagga, far from a dry recitation, her delivery was electric and most revealing. Other readers shared excerpts from vintage sex manuals and obscure erotica.

The Yes Madam spanking bench – Does anyone recognise this?

The Great Hall featured a bold line-up of performances and screenings that instantly set the tone. As I stepped in, a massive 30-foot screen filled the space showing a naked man staring straight into the camera and urinating directly toward the lens, like he was baptizing me for the night ahead; I felt instantly at home.

Standouts included Operotica, whose boundary-pushing fusion of opera and kink delivered a stunning, provocative show. From The Goss Room I could hear the bold, unmistakable tones of Mistress Whiplash herself – Lindi St. Clare from rare archival footage from one of her infamous kinky parties.

Stefan Dickers, the visionary archivist who created the UK Leather and Fetish Archive in 2016 openly celebrating and preserving over 150 years of kink, fetish, leather, and BDSM culture – the first of its kind worldwide.

Mistress Sidonia in Conversation with Stef Dickers
In The Courtyard the highlight of everyone’s evening – OK I’m biased, was when I joined ‘the’ Stefan Dickers, the archive’s creator, for ‘Legendary Dominatrix Opens Up About Her Kink Journey’, a discussion on my personal journey through the kink world.  Discussing the origins of the early club scene, how kinks have evolved over the decades, the role cultural influences have played in shaping them and other funny stories that have peppered my journey through the fetish scene. Plenty of those!

The udderly fabulous rubber donkey

From Vintage Erotica to Latex Donkeys
Upstairs in The Exhibition Space – titled Transformation, contemporary fetish makers like Wrapped in Rubber displayed works alongside archive pieces, with the artist and live sculpture/performer Electric Adam. The star of the show for me, was the fabulous latex inflatable donkey complete with bouncy udders. Those teats were begging for a squeeze! Dominatrix Miss May performed a striking kinky scene with her sub.

Earlier, Dr. Charlie Goldthorpe gave a fascinating talk on her project recreating latex outfits from AtomAge Magazine – founded by John Sutcliffe, sharing her passion for its pioneering role in fetish wear/fashion. With so much happening across the venue, talks, demos, exhibitions and more, I only caught a fraction during my wanderings. Indeed, the incredible Victorian building itself, with its stunning British Art Nouveau architecture, is worth experiencing alone. So if you missed this year’s event, keep an eye out for the 2027 edition, it’s not to be missed!

The Bishopgate Institute’s beautiful British Art Nouveau architecture – it even has turrets.

I was blown away by the incredible talent, artistry, and creativity of the attendees and performers, all sharing their passions. It was a super immersive, welcoming and wonderfully  positive evening. So yay to everyone I met, and thank you to everyone involved!

This event highlights The Bishopsgate Institute’s commitment to preserving and openly celebrating kink as part of broader LGBTQIA+ and alternative sexual histories, creating a welcoming, boundary-pushing space for enthusiasts, artists, archivists, and the curious alike. They stand out as rare opportunities to experience archive materials in a dynamic, performative context rather than just static viewing. I’m really grateful to everyone involved for their dedication and the incredible things they’re making happen.
Check Out the UK Leather and Fetish Archive on X here @UKLeatherArch

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D/s Relationships & Responsibility: Submission Is A Precious Gift

Keep It Locked Up Somewhere Safe!

Submission Is A Precious Gift

Submission is a precious gift and domination a hefty responsibility.

D/s Relationships & Responsibility
Submission is not merely an act but a profound gift, one that should be nurtured and respected. It represents trust, vulnerability, and a willingness to yield control, offering a unique form of intimacy and connection. On the other side, domination is not just a role but a substantial responsibility. It demands a deep understanding, respect, and commitment to the well-being of the submissive partner.

To truly honour the gift of submission:

◊  Respect: Recognize the courage it takes to submit. Treat every act of submission with the reverence it deserves, understanding that it is bestowed with trust.

◊  Care: Ensure that the submissive’s boundaries are not only recognized but actively protected. Domination should never lead to harm – physical, psychological/ emotional (affecting their mental health) or financial, but should instead foster a safe space for exploration.

◊  Communication: Continuous, clear, and honest communication is vital. Domination requires listening to the submissive’s needs, desires, and feedback to navigate the dynamics healthily.

◊  Consent: All actions must be consensual, with consent being an ongoing process, not a one-time agreement. The dominant must always be attuned to the submissive’s physical and emotional state. Limits must be set, understood and respected.

◊  Education: Both parties should educate themselves about BDSM practices and safety. Play activities should be safe and sane, with all participants being fully aware of the risks involved. A responsible dominant is always safeguarding their partner.

◊  Empowerment: Domination should empower the submissive, helping them to grow, explore, and find joy in their submission, rather than diminishing or exploiting them.

◊  Accountability: If mistakes happen, the dominant should own them, learn from them, and strive to do better. Dominance comes with the duty to reflect on one’s actions and their effects on the submissive.

Submission and domination are intertwined in a dance of mutual respect, trust and care. Treating submission as the precious gift it is means embracing domination as a hefty responsibility, ensuring that the power exchange is healthy, consensual, and enriching for all involved.

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Suggested BDSM Resources & Reading Materials

The Mistress Manual by Mistress Lorelei, Greenery Press 2000
The Art of Sensual Female Dominance
by Claudia Varrin, Citadel 2000
Different Loving: The world of of Sexual Dominance and Submission
by Gloria Brame, William Brame and John Jacobs, Villard 1996
Different Loving Too: Real People, Real Lives, Real BDSM by Gloria G. Brame & William D. Brame, Moons Grove Press 2015
SM101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman, Greenery Press, 2nd Ed 1996
Erotic Bondage Handbook by Jay Wiseman, Greenery Press 2000
The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy, Greenery Press 2003
The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy, ‎Greenery Press, 2nd Ed 2001
Extreme Space: The Dominance and Submission Handbook by FRR Mallory, Unbound Books 1998
How to be Kinky: A Beginner’s Guide to BDSM  by Morpheous, Green Candy Press 2008
The Ultimate Guide to Kink by Tristan Taormino, Cleis Press 2012

See also: Playing Safely in BDSM

 

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Getting Down – Sex Top Ten Music Chart

Welcome to The English Mansion’s
Getting Down – Sex Top Ten Music Chart
Our musical Top Tens dedicated to all things kinky 

Our steamiest, unapologetically heated musical countdown. Let’s be honest, the English language is shockingly stingy when it comes to words for fornication, carnal knowledge, intercourse… OK yes sex and… all the acts, raw urges and heat that come with it. We’ve got endless ballads about love, heartbreak, and forever. (That’s why Serge Gainsbourg’s infamous Je t’aim is only a runner-up here.)

But actual, no-holds-barred songs about the fucking, licking, sucking? They’re rare gems, often smuggled in using clever metaphors like ‘pony riding’ & ‘going down’. Still, I’ve unearthed some truly excellent, unfiltered filthy tracks that don’t all, play coy or hide behind euphemisms. These are the ones that celebrate the primal, and leave nothing to the imagination. Ready to turn up the heat and get down?
(Some of these tracks can only be viewed by clicking the watch on YouTube button.)

Getting Down – Sex Top Ten
1   Relax Frankie Goes To
Hollywood (1983)
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2   Go To Town Doja Cat (2018) Play Video
3  Licky
joint with
3  Ice Cream
joint with
3  Lick It
Princess Superstar (2008)

New Young Pony Club (2007)

20 Finger Club featuring Roula (1994)

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4  Anaconda
joint with
4  WAP – Wet Ass Pussy
Nicki Minaj (2014)

Cardi B feat. Megan Thee Stallion (2020)

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5   XXX
joint with
5   They Wanna Fuck
joint with
5  FUCK
Kim Petras (2025)

Kim Petras (2025)

Snow Wife (2023)

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6 Love to Love You Baby Donna Summer (1975) Play Video
7   SexyBack
Justin Timberlake ft. Timbaland (2006) Play Video
8  French Kiss Lil Louis (1989) Play Video
9   Me So Horny 2 Live Crew (1989) Play Video
10   Pony
joint with
10  Satisfaction
Ginuwine (1996)

Benny Benassi (2002)

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Contenders that didn’t quite make it into our Top Ten:

Sex Bomb by Tom Jones featuring Mousse T (1999)  Play Video
Je t’aime… moi non plus
– Serge Gainsbourg & Jane Birkin (1969) Play Video
Baby Got Back by Sir Mix-A-Lot (1992) Play Video
Sex Machine by James Brown (1970) Play Video
I Want Your Sex by George Michael (1987)  Play Video

P.S. (The song Me So Horny was banned and prosecuted for obscenity, with the band members arrested though it was overturned on appeal. It also samples ‘the’ infamous line from Stanley Kubrick’s Full Metal Jacket (1987).)
(I also considered this from Wagner’s opera Tristan und Isolde – Act 3 the ‘Liebestod’  Listen & Play Video  this must surely be the sexual act and female orgasm in musical form, or is this just me? I get palpitations just listening to it and feel slightly assaulted by the man.)

The English Mansion’s Kinky Music Charts

Take a look at our other musical Top Tens dedicated to all things kinky
~ to be included the rules are: they must be big hits or tracks from internationally well-known performers.

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New Femdom Virtual Reality Experiences – Winter 2026

Lingerie Goddess JOI – VR featuring Miss Suzanna Maxwell

New Femdom Virtual Reality Experiences – Winter 2026
Members of The English Mansion enjoy exclusive, unparalleled entry into breathtaking classic Femdom and fetish VR experiences. This is nothing like 3D films at the cinema – this is full Virtual Reality: a relentless, sensory-overloading domination that pulls you in deep. No more sitting on the sidelines as a timid spectator. Here, you enter a vivid three-dimensional realm where exploration becomes submission, interaction turns into surrender, and every moment demands your obedience.
Our latest exclusive Femdom VR experiences places you right there—face-to-face, up close—with powerful, stunning dominant women who command your full attention. Prepare for inescapable, reality-shattering 3D VR encounters designed to completely overtake your mind and senses. Your new reality awaits… and it bows to no one –  but you do!

Inside The English Mansion we have:

♣   Over 400 Femdom 3D VR Experiences  

♣   Over 54 hrs of Virtual Reality content 

♣   Featuring 35 Real-World Dominas   

Mansion VR Experiences
Recent 3D Virtual Reality Experiences updates
all Now Showing inside our Members’ Area

Over 350 Experiences/ 54 Hours/ featuring 35 Dominas
Wearing a special headset you enter a three-dimensional setting which you can explore and interact with – you are no long a passive observer but part of the action. No Headset? Don’t worry all Mansion VR Experiences can still be watched as POV films & you can even use your cursor/mouse/touch screen to change your view of the action. See This Blog For Headset Info

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See Recent Updates here

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Enfettered: Generation F – Cock Milking System

Enfettered: BDSM Equipment Par Excellence

Enfettered is an on-line supplier of BDSM playroom furniture, equipment, high-tech kit, along with a huge selection of fetish toys. Seriously this site offers you a vast choice of kinky wares.  It’s an endeavour set up by genuine scene players who have a wealth of knowledge and experience of fet-play. We just can’t recommend them enough! They are pure par excellence.
This isn’t even my first blog about them, see here
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Enfettered definitely caters to the needs of serious scene players and studios, offering bespoke BDSM furniture allowing you to work with their expertise to have furniture adapted or made to your specific requirements. There is also plenty for Newbys to discover, and lots of high quality scene staples like manacles & whips.

However! What Enfettered produce that’s really special is their Cock Milking System, so without further ado, lets introduce you to… ta-dah…
Generation F.

Generation F – Cock Milking System

Enfettered have developed a specialist cock milking device, their Generation F – Churn Parlour Kit Milking System. The system could be described as a vacuum system, however they describe it as so much more, “The pull of a milking feeling, whilst the Rhythm lines that run from the Pulsator create the squeeze and rhythm, working together to create the ultimate in vacuum fuelled stimulation.” Creating their unique vacuum fulled rhythm & surge cock milking system.

Miss Suzanna Maxwell: PETz- Pellucid 4 Port Electro Self Adjusting Milking Tube

Introducing Generation F
The Generation F – Churn Parlour Kit Milking System consists of an iconic Churn Milker (powered by a Vacuum pump)
with Pump Lines connecting to the Penis Encasement Tubes – PETz and/or Nipple Cylinders. Pretty much enabling a  straight-forward plug and play quick set up. Rhythm speed can be effected by using the pulsator tuner, while rhythm intensity can be effected using the long handled flow valves nestled in the pump lines. It’s simple, effective and immersive.

Princess Aurora: Nipple Rhythm & Surge Bi Electric Cylinders

Nipple Rhythm & Surge Bi Electric Cylinders
So here at The Mansion we just acquired the Generation F – Nipple Rhythm & Surge Bi Electric Cylinders.
With a little expertise from the gorgeous Princess Aurora and suffering from the super cute Melissa Tay we put them straight to use.
We were super impressed they are incredible & need to be seen in action to be appreciated!

Mistress Genna James: PETz- 2 Phase Surge & Single Rhythm Male Milking Tube

Support, Attachments & Options
Each system comes with membership to the GenHub – a portal of instructional videos, hints and tips. And there’s a huge variety of differing Surge & Rhythm and Electro penis tube attachments, they call them PETz. Plus nipple attachments, churn stands & harnesses. Lastly, what is also unique and rather fabulous is you can pretty much choose what colour you want for; tubes, pump lines, harnesses, & extrusions. So you can custom your milker to match your style or playspace.

So if you want to treat yourself or that person on a pedestal in your life, check out the store, Xmas is coming.

Visit the website here:  Enfettered
And dedicated website here:  Generation F
Follow on X/Twitter here: @GenF_Milker   @Enfettered8

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In The Line Of Fire: Mistress Alexandra Wildfire


In The Line Of Fire: Mistress Alexandra Wildfire

Beautiful Mistress Alexandra Wildfire, a captivating bespectacled blonde with Eastern European roots, exudes a sultry mischief combined with effortless dominance. Adorned in striking head-to-toe fetish outfits, particularly exquisite full-leather and latex; she commands every gaze with her magnetic charm and unyielding authority. As the proprietor of The Velvet Loft, a wonderfully renovated, and meticulously newly refurbished, fully-equipped luxury studio in central London, she offers an enticing private haven for kink exploration.

Far from distant or unapproachable, Mistress Wildfire delights in guiding curious newcomers through their first thrilling steps, while expertly leading seasoned players into the darker, more deviant realms of BDSM with masterful finesse. She specialises in Shibari rope bondage often combined with elements of predicament bondage. She revels in Xdressing, sissification; and is expert in strapon and anal play.

Step into her presence, and you may find yourself willingly in her line of fire, a deliciously dangerous place, where the heat of her attention makes her name feel all too fitting.

Mistress Alexandra Wildfire deserves to be worshipped & served on-line. Make sure you check out her fan sites or you can watch her in action on her clips stores.

Mistress Alexandra Wildfire  – All Links Here

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