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Submission Is A Precious Gift
Submission is a precious gift and domination a hefty responsibility.
D/s Relationships & Responsibility
Submission is not merely an act but a profound gift, one that should be nurtured and respected. It represents trust, vulnerability, and a willingness to yield control, offering a unique form of intimacy and connection. On the other side, domination is not just a role but a substantial responsibility. It demands a deep understanding, respect, and commitment to the well-being of the submissive partner.
To truly honour the gift of submission:
◊ Respect: Recognize the courage it takes to submit. Treat every act of submission with the reverence it deserves, understanding that it is bestowed with trust.
◊ Care: Ensure that the submissive’s boundaries are not only recognized but actively protected. Domination should never lead to harm – physical, psychological/ emotional (affecting their mental health) or financial, but should instead foster a safe space for exploration.
◊ Communication: Continuous, clear, and honest communication is vital. Domination requires listening to the submissive’s needs, desires, and feedback to navigate the dynamics healthily.
◊ Consent: All actions must be consensual, with consent being an ongoing process, not a one-time agreement. The dominant must always be attuned to the submissive’s physical and emotional state. Limits must be set, understood and respected.
◊ Education: Both parties should educate themselves about BDSM practices and safety. Play activities should be safe and sane, with all participants being fully aware of the risks involved. A responsible dominant is always safeguarding their partner.
◊ Empowerment: Domination should empower the submissive, helping them to grow, explore, and find joy in their submission, rather than diminishing or exploiting them.
◊ Accountability: If mistakes happen, the dominant should own them, learn from them, and strive to do better. Dominance comes with the duty to reflect on one’s actions and their effects on the submissive.
Submission and domination are intertwined in a dance of mutual respect, trust and care. Treating submission as the precious gift it is means embracing domination as a hefty responsibility, ensuring that the power exchange is healthy, consensual, and enriching for all involved.
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Suggested BDSM Resources & Reading Materials
The Mistress Manual by Mistress Lorelei, Greenery Press 2000
The Art of Sensual Female Dominance by Claudia Varrin, Citadel 2000
Different Loving: The world of of Sexual Dominance and Submission by Gloria Brame, William Brame and John Jacobs, Villard 1996
Different Loving Too: Real People, Real Lives, Real BDSM by Gloria G. Brame & William D. Brame, Moons Grove Press 2015
SM101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman, Greenery Press, 2nd Ed 1996
Erotic Bondage Handbook by Jay Wiseman, Greenery Press 2000
The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy, Greenery Press 2003
The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy, Greenery Press, 2nd Ed 2001
Extreme Space: The Dominance and Submission Handbook by FRR Mallory, Unbound Books 1998
How to be Kinky: A Beginner’s Guide to BDSM by Morpheous, Green Candy Press 2008
The Ultimate Guide to Kink by Tristan Taormino, Cleis Press 2012
See also: Playing Safely in BDSM
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