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Exotic Cancer: Don’t Mess with a Goddess

Posted on 25/10/2025 by Mistress Sidonia

Exotic Cancer: Don’t Mess with a Goddess

Exotic Cancer, a Melbourne based digital artist, kicked off her creative journey in 2017 by posting her artwork on Instagram. Her carnal and provocative illustrations, shaped by her experiences in the world of strip clubs, grabbed

attention fast with their unfiltered direct storytelling. Transforming raw, intimate moments into satirical, empowering narratives that challenge societal stigmas around the sex industry. She soon transitioned from a passion project to a full-time career.

She says the themes within her work can be summarized in three words: female sexual empowerment. The aesthetic is both playful, unflinching and confrontational, with clean lines, vibrant contrasts, and a touch of the macabre, creating a visually striking commentary on sexuality. She explores the darker facets of human desire, lust, male & female power dynamics, and the tangled web of human connection, casting these themes against a dark, dystopian backdrop.

Nightshift – The Board Game
Alongside her potent, suggestive illustrations and animations, Exotic Cancer pours her imagination into standout product designs, jumping across all sorts of mediums with her signature darkness. Nightshift, her board game smashed through crowdfunding expectations, raking in over a million dollars on Kickstarter, transforming her art and life experiences into an interactive experience.

One Off Unique Merch
Exotic Cancer’s online shop offers a curated selection of merchandise reflecting her provocative, sex-positive art. Featuring the bestselling Exotic Cancer Tarot Deck, art prints, cushions, crop tops, socks, and accessories like key-chains and phone cases, with worldwide shipping.

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I absolutely adore, adore, adore! Exotic Cancer’s illustrations, annimations and merch. Driven by her unfiltered female perspective, she smashes traditional boundaries, a true original with her defiant, provocative empowering work. Here, I’ve highlighted her Femdom-inspired pieces, but her portfolio also includes striking mini-animations and illustrations celebrating womanhood, sexwork, and the female body.

Exotic Cancer Gallery

Please show your support for her work by visiting/following here:

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The Power of Chastity in Femdom

Posted on 19/10/2025 by Mistress Sidonia

Photo from: Training Her Houseboy featuring Miss Suzanna Maxwell

The Power of Chastity in Femdom:
A Psychological Dance of Control and Desire
An Ode To Locktober

In the intricate world of Female-Led Relationships (FLR) and Femdom dynamics, chastity play is a powerful tool that transcends physical restraint, weaving a complex tapestry of psychological control, devotion, and desire. A chastity device is not merely a lock on a sub’s genitals; it’s a symbol of the Domina’s authority over their most intimate urges, creating a dynamic charged with anticipation, vulnerability, and power. Chastity amplifies the psychological connection between Dominant and submissive. While my previous articles: A Beginner’s Guide to Wearing a Chastity Device Pts1, 2&3 covered practicalities like choosing a cage, here I explore the psychological power of chastity in Femdom.

Amplifying Dominance Through Chastity

Chastity is a powerful tool for a Domina to wield. It’s not merely a physical restraint; it’s a psychological leash that keeps a submissive tethered to her, craving her command. Chastity symbolizes the submissive’s surrender of control over their sexual desires to the Mistress. Once locked, the device turns teasing: verbal or physical, into a delicious torment, heightening arousal and transforming daily moments into erotic tension. With the sub’s desire sharpening their submission, this continued denial redirects their energy from personal urges to devoted service, fostering self-control, curbing habits like excessive masturbation, and deepening intimacy with the Mistress.

Keyholding & Denial

As a keyholder, the Domina often wears the key around her neck, a constant reminder of her control dangling in plain sight. For added devotion, the submissive’s chastity cage padlock can be engraved with the Dominant’s initials, a mark of ownership felt with every step. Tasks and rewards transform submission into a game designed by the Mistress. Menial chores, acts of service, humiliation or daily affirmations of the Dominant’s power may be assigned. With fleeting moments of freedom from the device earned through compliance and obedience or withheld for the smallest infractions. A missed task? Answering back with cheek? They are denied. This keeps their focus razor-sharp, their motivation burning to please their Mistress. This interplay of control, anticipation, and consequence illustrates the intricate psychological layers of chastity within a Femdom relationship.

Emasculation

Some submissives are never permitted a release and are kept permanently locked by their Mistress: possibly due to their inadequate cocks; her desire to cuckold them; or to keep them pussy-free and forever denied sexual release or pleasure as Sissies or BAVs. Here chastity may serve to emasculate the male submissive, stripping him of his cock’s function and ability to penetrate, rendering him symbolically impotent. This may be part of his re-education in order to learn his place as nothing more than an asexual object within his Mistress’s household. Separately, chastity may enforce feminization, here reinforced through sissy training and feminized attire in order to totally reshape his identity, to obliterate his former ‘maleness’ under her control.

Chastity Rituals

Rituals have power; in Femdom, we create sacred moments around locking and unlocking. A slave may be required to stand before his Mistress, eyes lowered, hands behind their back, as she secures the device, reinforcing her authority with each click. These rituals aren’t just for show, they etch the power the domina holds into the psyche of the sub while fostering a profound connection, feeling their ‘owned status’. Unlike most Femdom play, chastity extends beyond the dungeon; while a collar may not be worn publicly, a chastity device can be discreetly worn 24/7. As play continues in the ‘real world,’ dominas may enforce rules like daily check-ins, tasks, or photo verification.

Other chastity rituals and games deepen the Femdom dynamic, through daily or weekly ceremonies, such as morning affirmations where the submissive declares, “I surrender my desires to you,” or bedtime lock-ins paired with anal plugs to heighten vulnerability. Tease sessions, whether edging or playful “chastity roulette” games, amplify anticipation. For long-distance dynamics, app-controlled cages with vibrating denial or timed key safes extend the Mistress’s authority across any distance.

Discussions about their denial cultivate a profound sense of owned submission, with submissives required to beg for release, earn freedom through devoted tasks, or wear the device 247. A release date may be set or left to the Dominant’s discretion, amplifying the submissive’s total surrender. A chastity device, much like a promise ring, symbolizes a vow to the Mistress, a way to endure and show their unwavering devotion.

Locktober

Locktober is a month-long event celebrated every October within the BDSM and kink communities. Subs and slaves commit to remaining in chastity, typically by wearing a chastity device (though a chastity promise/vow/pledge is also used) for the entire month, guided by their Mistress. This practice intensifies the power exchange, with Dominas setting rules, challenges, or tasks to keep the submissive on track and devoted. Locktober has gained popularity through online communities, where participants share experiences, challenges, and tips. The month-long duration introduces an element of endurance, testing the submissive’s commitment and deepening the bond with their Mistress.

Safety and Consent: Chastity devices must be comfortable, hygienic, and properly fitted to prevent injury. Regular check-ins and open communication ensure ongoing consent and comfort, while fostering trust. Read Pt3 of my Beginner’s Guide to Femdom for more information!

So, lock those bad boys up – it’s not just for their own good, it’s a deliciously deviant and hot way to deepen your Femdom dynamic. Keeping Doms in control and subs utterly devoted!

A Beginner’s Guide to Wearing a Chastity Device Pt1
A Beginner’s Guide to Wearing a Chastity Device Pt2
A Beginner’s Guide to Wearing a Chastity Device Pt3

The Power of Chastity in Femdom: A Psychological Dance of Control and Desire

LOCKtober – The Glorious 31 Day Non-Stop Caged Boner!

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Property Of Superior Women

Posted on 13/10/2025 by Mistress Sidonia

Property Of Superior Women

In a world where superior women reign supreme, slaves are nothing but their degraded property, trussed up in tight leather and coarse rope, twisted into humiliating predicament bondage positions that expose their weakness.

Stunning, merciless goddesses revel in their power, cruelly pegging their pathetic submissives with strapons, zapping them with electrified torment, harnessing them to chariots and subjecting them to relentless anal fucking machines that pound them into submission. Slaves, reduced to groveling, beaten, obedient toys, who exist solely to amuse their beautiful, sadistic mistresses, who delight in their suffering and demand absolute, humiliating devotion.

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A Regal Debut: Femdom Royalty Magazine

Posted on 07/10/2025 by Mistress Sidonia

A Regal Debut: Femdom Royalty Magazine

Femdom Royalty has burst onto the scene like a whip crack in a silent dungeon, a female-led quarterly magazine and femdom lifestyle blog that elevates the art of Female Domination to its rightful throne. Curated with unflinching authenticity and packed with high-quality photographs that capture the raw elegance and commanding presence of its subjects. This inaugural issue is a testament to the power of women reclaiming their narrative in a world too often filtered through the male lens.

At its helm stands the indomitable Lady Bellatrix, a British-Canadian Dominatrix with 15 years of professional pro-domming prowess and a journalistic pedigree that includes columns in major UK newspapers, and freelance features for top publications. Her vision – to spotlight the unsung architects of the BDSM universe has transformed what could have been another glossy fetish rag into a sophisticated chronicle of resilience, innovation, and unapologetic supremacy. From her Paris base, Bellatrix doesn’t just edit; she commands, infusing every page with the sharp intellect and lived experience that only a true practitioner can muster.

What sets Femdom Royalty apart is its relentless commitment to quality, striking photos, well-researched content that delves beyond surface-level kink into the psychological, cultural, and professional bedrock of Femdom. Gone are the recycled tropes and objectifying fantasies; in their place are nuanced explorations drawn from decades of global expertise. This isn’t armchair erotica, it’s a curated archive of voices that have weathered pandemics, legislative battles, and societal stigma! Highly recommended by industry titans like Ms. Velvet-Bound and Mistress Sidonia, the magazine has already garnered praise for its empowering ethos and refusal to pander. In an era where Femdom media often prioritizes spectacle over substance, Femdom Royalty restores dignity, making it an instant must-have for serious enthusiasts.

Quarterly Editions
Subscription is straightforward and accessible via the magazine’s sleek online portal at femdomroyalty.com, with digital editions delivered quarterly – for $49.99 annually, well worth every penny. Physical copies, printed on premium matte stock with evocative photography, ship worldwide for an additional $15 per year. This isn’t just a magazine; it’s an exclusive club for connoisseurs of Femdom and loyal subjects of Dominas around the world, fostering a sense of belonging amid its pages. Members gain bonus access to a private online forum for discussions, event listings, and previews of future issues.

Domina In-Depth Interviews
Extensive interviews form the magazine’s glittering spine, kicking off with Domina Silvia of Germany – a 30-year veteran whose path from 1990s Duisburg curiosity to global icon is riveting. Bellatrix’s sharp questions trace her rise from Düsseldorf dungeon observer to pioneer of authentic fetish films via SM Studio Berlin; unpacking insights on national kinks, instinctive psychological tools, and candid unexplored fantasies that reveal dominance’s intimate core, delivering a masterclass in intuition.

Equally captivating is Philadelphia’s Mistress Tissa, a “natural born Dominant”. Blending goth roots and academic rigour into her 2007 pro-Domme pivot, reframing feminization through L’Autel de la Femme as empowerment over emasculation while rejecting misogynistic tropes. From kink-competent counselling to founding BDSMProfessionals.com as a traditionalist haven, she guards the craft with sensual steel.

Rounding out the trio is Mistress Lorraine of Essex, UK, whose 10-year reign is marked by a “gym-toned body with a never-tiring right arm” and a charisma that disarms before it dominates. She co-owns the Essex and Maida Vale Dungeons with Madame Caramel. Mistress Lorraine uses her expansionist “Fempire” call and psychological edge to fully ‘take over’ her submissives, her motto, “We all deserve to be happy,” reframes D/s as fulfillment over mere control.

Words of Wisdomme
Lady Bellatrix‘s own feature, “Words of Wisdomme: Myth of the Personal Slave,” is a tour de force that skewers the entitled fantasies peddled by “hobosexuals” on FetLife, insisting that professionalism demands tribute, not free labor. Drawing from her pivot from journalism to full-time Domination in 2010, she dismantles the live-in slave delusion with humor and hard truths- why would an A-list Mistress trade session fees for “unpaid man babysitting”? It’s a rallying cry for boundaries!

Complementing this is “Mansplaining with Authentically Kinky,” where podcast host John (Hi There, Catsuit) offers a rare male perspective on ethical submission. Emphasizing kindness as kink and communication as catharsis, all while challenging stereotypes without overstepping.

Agony Aunt & Reviews
The Agony Aunt column by Mistress Simone Worthington, with her 30 years spanning Chicago and St. Louis, provides pragmatic balm for submissives’ woes, from tailored aftercare to avoid sub-drop, to impressing a Domme with honesty and punctuality, to navigating doubles with complementary energies. Her advice is no-nonsense yet nurturing, urging novices to embrace their inexperience and veterans to seek novelty, all while stressing mutual respect in professional play.

The reviews section is a treasure trove of vetted excellence: Jane Boon‘s “Bold Strokes” novel earns raves for its thrilling sequel to “Edge Play,” immersing readers in art-world intrigue and authentic Dominatrix psyche through Erika Grieg’s high-stakes double life. Justine Cross‘s Stella Obscura dungeon in LA dazzles as an all-white, neon-lit sanctuary blending luxury with bespoke gear for elite play.

Lady Sara Borgia’s Strap-On Parties get exalted as a “Cathedral of Kink” in Birmingham, where three (or four) Mistresses unleash a party atmosphere of fun kinky pegging in a stunning dungeon. Finally, Mistress Jessica Wood‘s relaunched members’ site showcases her Hertfordshire corporal mastery, from caning to role-play, bridging online-filmed action to real sessions.

In Femdom Royalty, Lady Bellatrix has forged not just a magazine, but a manifesto for the future of Female Domination, bursting with substance that educates as it arouses, this quarterly gem is indispensable for Dominas, kinksters, fetishists, and subs alike.

Subscribe now; the throne awaits, and the future is indeed female.

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Enfettered: Generation F – Cock Milking System

Posted on 01/10/2025 by Mistress Sidonia

Enfettered: BDSM Equipment Par Excellence

Enfettered is an on-line supplier of BDSM playroom furniture, equipment, high-tech kit, along with a huge selection of fetish toys. Seriously this site offers you a vast choice of kinky wares. It’s an endeavour set up by genuine scene players who have a wealth of knowledge and experience of fet-play. We just can’t recommend them enough! They are pure par excellence.
This isn’t even my first blog about them, see here.

Enfettered definitely caters to the needs of serious scene players and studios, offering bespoke BDSM furniture allowing you to work with their expertise to have furniture adapted or made to your specific requirements. There is also plenty for Newbys to discover, and lots of high quality scene staples like manacles & whips.

However! What Enfettered produce that’s really special is their Cock Milking System, so without further ado, lets introduce you to… ta-dah…
Generation F.

Generation F – Cock Milking System

Enfettered have developed a specialist cock milking device, their Generation F – Churn Parlour Kit Milking System. The system could be described as a vacuum system, however they describe it as so much more, “The pull of a milking feeling, whilst the Rhythm lines that run from the Pulsator create the squeeze and rhythm, working together to create the ultimate in vacuum fuelled stimulation.” Creating their unique vacuum fulled rhythm & surge cock milking system.

Miss Suzanna Maxwell: PETz- Pellucid 4 Port Electro Self Adjusting Milking Tube

Introducing Generation F
The Generation F – Churn Parlour Kit Milking System consists of an iconic Churn Milker (powered by a Vacuum pump) with Pump Lines connecting to the Penis Encasement Tubes – PETz and/or Nipple Cylinders. Pretty much enabling a straight-forward plug and play quick set up. Rhythm speed can be effected by using the pulsator tuner, while rhythm intensity can be effected using the long handled flow valves nestled in the pump lines. It’s simple, effective and immersive.

Princess Aurora: Nipple Rhythm & Surge Bi Electric Cylinders

Nipple Rhythm & Surge Bi Electric Cylinders
So here at The Mansion we just acquired the Generation F – Nipple Rhythm & Surge Bi Electric Cylinders.
With a little expertise from the gorgeous Princess Aurora and suffering from the super cute Melissa Tay we put them straight to use.
We were super impressed they are incredible & need to be seen in action to be appreciated!

Mistress Genna James: PETz- 2 Phase Surge & Single Rhythm Male Milking Tube

Support, Attachments & Options
Each system comes with membership to the GenHub – a portal of instructional videos, hints and tips. And there’s a huge variety of differing Surge & Rhythm and Electro penis tube attachments, they call them PETz. Plus nipple attachments, churn stands & harnesses. Lastly, what is also unique and rather fabulous is you can pretty much choose what colour you want for; tubes, pump lines, harnesses, & extrusions. So you can custom your milker to match your style or playspace.

So if you want to treat yourself or that person on a pedestal in your life, check out the store, Xmas is coming.

Visit the website here: Enfettered
And dedicated website here: Generation F
Follow on X/Twitter here: @GenF_Milker @Enfettered8

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Penis Envy: My Perfect Strapon Cock

Posted on 23/09/2025 by Mistress Sidonia

Penis Envy: My Perfect Strapon Cock
And A Few Essential Strapon Tips

When shopping, I find it impossible to find the right dick. So if there are any bespoke fabricators out there, this would be my perfect strapon cock in style, looks, and design.
Yes! I thought I would pass on my wisdom to strapon manufacturers everywhere. You’re welcome

Length & Texture
Long enough to stay put without slipping out mid-thrust. I like to be able to maneuver it around, watch the cock slide in and out, so need some extra length, (also great for filming otherwise you see nothing as it’s all disappeared inside.) If you want girth it should increase as it get deeper, so a cock that widens at the base. With big balls to act as a bumper – no accidental hilt-deep surprises. The anus has two sphincters: the outer one you control; the inner one auto-relaxes top-down (nature’s poop highway). A fingering at the start is essential to trigger the inner muscle, to relax both. Short dildos keep popping out like a bad jack-in-the-box and don’t always reach that 2nd sphincter. A long, slim, dick keeps the party inside.

The Tip
The tip/head/glans should be smaller than the rest of the cock helping entry. The cock should be mainly smooth (preferably not cut) not creating a place for any mess to lodge itself. Easier entry, no poop-trapping nooks.

Soft Top, Stiff Base
The top half of the total length should be super-soft jelly silicone. Bends like a drunk noodle, follows rectum curves, finds the path of least resistance. Graduating to the base which should be firm and proud. Lets you pound away without folding like origami, or worse, slipping out and ruining the rhythm. Control the chaos!
Quality silicone is my choice for its soft feel, realism and ease of cleaning, (soak in Milton for 20 mins is ideal, or use a condom!)

Big Balls
Non-Negotiable! Huge, heavy wrinkled balls are essential for me, I want my sub to snuffle, lick and suck on them – so humiliating and the perfect opportunity for hot, sexy eye contact. Peak shame. Plus they serve a function, they stop you stuffing the whole thing inside. Like a car bumper – yes let’s get those cocks “balls deep” but no more!

For Fucking Machines the same idea, but even longer, thin soft tip + rock-hard base, no balls needed. And, remember machines don’t get tired, but rectums do, don’t let them file a complaint.

Realistic – Penis Envy
I like a strapon cock that looks and feels as realistic as possible, red head, soft jelly skin. I want it to feel like My cock when strapped on. Realistic veins, yes sure but if realism clashes with function (like a giant ridge that traps… debris), function wins. Priorities: real hot, not hazardous.

Male Anatomy 101 – Angles Matter
When using a strapon it’s important to know where the prostate and the bowel sit in a male’s body. Remembering that strapon cocks are usually much harder and bigger that real dicks and so can easily damage the inside of the bowel.

Doggy style: Cock curves up. Prostate… hook finger down to nudge it.
Missionary (best view): Cock angles back toward their butt (vagina-ish). Prostate sits up front, hook finger up and in like you’re scooping gold.