A Beginner’s Guide
to Wearing a Chastity Device Pt1
Or everything you ever wanted to know about male chastity cages
Male Chastity devices have become increasingly popular in the world of kink in the last decade, especially with the advance of so many different and reasonably priced options.
So whether you’re drawn to chastity for personal exploration, to enhance intimacy, or as part of a consensual D/s or FLR dynamic this guide will walk you through the essentials of choosing, wearing, and maintaining a chastity device safely and comfortably. Written (mainly) for beginners, this article hopefully covers everything!
What is Chastity Play?
Chastity play is a consensual practice where one partner is kept in a chaste state, prevented from touching, masturbating, or achieving orgasm except at the discretion of their ‘keyholder’. This is typically achieved using a chastity device, a wearable item made of materials like plastic, silicone, or stainless steel, designed to restrict access to the genitals and prevent sexual activity or stimulation, which is locked in place and cannot be removed. The duration of chastity can vary, ranging from a few hours or days to a long-term lifestyle choice where the state is maintained for extended periods.
Intimacy & Surrender
♦ It can enhance intimacy by deepening trust through a dynamic of control and surrender, often within a D/s (Dominant/submissive) or FLR (Female Led Relationship) framework where the Keyholder controls access to the device and decides when and if it may be removed. The chastity device may also act as a sign of the wearers ‘owned’ status. This may be through a RL or on-line relationship.
Focus
♦ It can redirect the wearer’s focus toward providing sexual pleasure or service to their partner rather than receiving it, or act as a broader tool for exerting control. It stops habitual wanking and its draining effect on the libido.
Teasing Games
♦ Used for short periods as a tool for orgasm control and teasing games, keeping thosed locked in a heightened state of arousal while denying release, leaving them desperate, pliable, and attentive. This controls their sexual desires, prevents erections, and allows you to use their arousal to your advantage, with orgasms granted only at your whim.
Self-Discipline
♦ Some individuals pursue chastity for personal exploration, using it for self-discipline, sacrifice, or to control/explore their desires and focus.
Feminisation
♦ Feminisation, this can involve using a device to restrict genital access, aiming to control inherent male urges and redirect focus from these sexual impulses. This practice allows the wearer to explore a feminine identity or expression while also physically minimising the visible shape of the penis.
Before engaging in chastity play with a partner, it’s crucial to discuss boundaries, expectations, and safe words to ensure clear communication, consent, and a shared understanding of the play.
Choosing the Right Chastity Device
Selecting the right chastity device is crucial for comfort, safety, and enjoyment. Here’s what to consider:
Materials: Resin, Silicone, Stainless Steel & Plastic
1. Material
Chastity devices come in various materials, each with pros and cons:
♦ Plastic: Lightweight, affordable, and good for beginners. Breathable but less durable.
♦ Silicone: Flexible and comfortable for long-term wear but may not feel as secure.
♦ Stainless Steel: Durable, secure, and hygienic but heavier and more expensive.
♦ Resin: Lightweight and customisable but may require more maintenance.
For beginners, plastic or silicone devices are often recommended due to their flexibility and lower cost.
2. Styles
Closed Devices
Fully enclosed tubes or cages that cover the entire penis, often with small openings for urination and ventilation.
♦ Pros: High security, minimal stimulation, and effective at preventing erections or touch.
♦ Cons: Can be harder to clean, may trap moisture, and might feel more restrictive.
♦ Best For: Long-term wear, strict denial, or those seeking maximum control.
Open or Bar Cage Devices
Feature bars or open sections, leaving parts of the penis exposed while still restricting full erections and access.
♦ Pros: Better airflow, easier to clean, and often more comfortable for extended wear.
♦ Cons: Less secure against stimulation or touch, as some skin remains accessible.
♦ Best For: Beginners, longer wear, or those prioritising hygiene and comfort.
Belt-Style Extreme Devices
A full chastity system with a waistband or harness that secures a cage or shield over the genitals, often locking at the waist.
♦ Pros: Extremely secure, prevents removal, and can cover more of the pelvic area.
♦ Cons: Bulkier, less discreet, and can be uncomfortable for sitting or active lifestyles.
♦ Best For: High security needs, long-term use, or those under strict partner control.
Custom
Tailor-made to fit your exact measurements, often using materials like 3D-printed resin, or metal, with customizable cage and ring designs. For feminisation they offer a variety of female shape designs.
♦ Pros: Perfect fit, enhanced comfort, and options for open or closed styles.
♦ Cons: Expensive, longer wait times for production, and may require adjustments.
♦ Best For: Experienced users, long-term wear, or those with unique sizing needs.
Styles: Open/Cage, Closed, Hybrid, Belts, Custom
Hybrid Devices
Combine elements of open and closed designs, such as a partially enclosed tip with open sides or slots for ventilation.
♦ Pros: Balances security and hygiene, offering moderate restriction and comfort.
♦ Cons: May not be as secure as full cages or as breathable as open designs.
♦ Best For: Versatile use, those unsure of their preference, or moderate-term wear.
(See also: Extreme & Advanced Devices & Styles in Pt2 of this article)
3. Size and Fit
A properly sized device is essential for comfort and safety. A poorly fitted device can cause chafing, pinching, or restricted blood flow. Here’s how to choose:
♦ Measure Accurately: Measure the penis length from the base to the tip and the circumference at the widest point while flaccid. Most manufacturers provide sizing guides.
♦ Cage Size: For male chastity devices, the cage should be slightly longer than the flaccid penis length to prevent erections but not so tight as to cause discomfort. A gap of about 1/4 of an inch between the tip and the cage is ideal.
♦ Base Ring Size: The ring that sits around the scrotum should be snug but not constricting. Test by ensuring you can fit one finger between the ring and your skin.
♦ Adjustability: Some devices come with adjustable rings or spacers, which are great for beginners still finding their fit.
4. Comfort Features
Look for devices with:
♦ Ventilation holes to reduce sweat and improve hygiene.
♦ Smooth edges to prevent chafing. (Some 3D-printed chastity devices may have rough, sharp edges due to poor quality, these imperfections can often be smoothed out by sanding.)
♦ Lightweight designs to allow for day-to-day life.
♦ A design that allows for easy urination.
♦ Consider using a ‘Numbered Plastic Lock Tag’ rather than a traditional padlock & key. See Pt3 of this article.
You may need to try a few devices to find the optimal cage, as comfort and the requirements needed from a device varies from person to person.
See also:
6 Reasons Why Men Should be Kept in Chastity
A Beginner’s Guide to Wearing a Chastity Device Pt1
A Beginner’s Guide to Wearing a Chastity Device Pt2
A Beginner’s Guide to Wearing a Chastity Device Pt3
The Power of Chastity in Femdom: A Psychological Dance of Control and Desire
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