High-Protocol in Femdom


High-Protocol in Femdom

High-Protocol is when there is a strict and formal enactment of roles for both the Sub and Dom alongside understood conventions, rules and etiquette. It has a ceremonial or ritualised aspect to it and acts to create a miniature universe where everyone can immerse themselves in their part, creating a deeper and more exhilarating level to these status positions; especially when you are publicly demonstrating this in front of both other doms and subs.

Most dommes use an honorific, a title before their name i.e. Mistress, Goddess or Lady, these are all examples of a form of high-protocol. They act to declare and formalise the domina’s status and indicate the veneration required for subs approaching them.

High-Protocol is not for every femdom relationship or scene and is, for myself in its most draconian form best employed for formal events. It can also be useful for specific or weighty scenes like a serious punishments. There are, however, some dommes who demand it at all times from their slaves. While for others protocol is not necessary at all, they may just want a hardcore masochist as stress relief or a willing sex slave.

If we consider the play between pure sadists and masochists which is focused on intense sensations/pain without any of the psychological aspects of femdom, what we mean is without the protocol. This is why they prefer the terms top & bottom rather than dom & sub. So ‘high’ protocol is an extreme form of role-play embracing total female supremacy and male submission. However, most femdom play is where these two spheres of play – the psychological/protocol and the physical side overlap to differing degrees.

The English Mansion visits Dungeon Manor – with the gorgeous Mistress Nikki Whiplash, Mistress Ezada Sinn, Mistress Evilyne, Lady Nina & Mistress Sidonia

To further help illustrate High-Protocol here are 10 common rules:

10 High-Protocol Rules
this is not an exhaustive or definite list
just some examples of femdom high-protocol

  1. Slaves must speak only when spoken to and will always use a dominas honorific when addressing them

  2. Slaves must not sit on any furniture

  3. Slaves must not stand, they may crawl or ‘hobble’ walk but their heads must not be higher than any dominas present

  4. Slaves must not turn their back on their Mistress and will give her their complete attention and focus at all times

  5. Slaves will raise a hand discreetly if they wish to speak to their Mistress, then ask permission to speak

  6. Slaves must ask permission to use the bathroom

  7. Slaves must return to a specific place or position when not ‘in use’, e.g. standing in the corner hands on head; or kneeling up before their Mistress, eyes downcast, knees spread wide open, hands behind back

  8. Slaves must be attentive and of service without being told, e.g. topping up drinks, getting on all fours to be a footstool or doormat, carrying bags

  9. Slaves must obey their Mistress absolutely and without delay, hesitation or question, their demeanour will be submissive, compliant & duteous

  10. Slaves must be naked, hooded, collared, locked in chastity and wear a symbol of ownership on their person, e.g. dog tag, tattoo, brand

Slaves: Useful Appendages
Slaves should be extensively instructed and conditioned in high-protocol and punished for infractions. A sub well-trained in high-protocol is a lovely appendage for Ladies to show-off in public, like a new pair of Louboutins. More useful than a handbag, they can carry bags, buy drinks, provide support for those awkward high heel moments, generally skivvy & provide endless entertainment for you and your friends as the butt of cruel inventive humiliations.

Etiquette & Ownership
There is often a misconception that if you are a collared slave and attend a high-protocol event with your Mistress, it is a free-for-all and anyone can use you. This is not the case (and you would be so lucky). Slaves who are collared, that is owned by a domme, are only for that Mistress’s use, unless she herself lends the slave out to one of her fellow dominas. It is not appropriate or polite for a domina to use another Mistress’s property; however male slaves must be respectful, polite and helpful to all the woman present no matter who they are or what their status is (i.e. switches/slave girls). Slaves may be very dedicated to their personal Mistress but this does NOT entitle them to treat other dominant women with anything other that total deference. If he is unsure of an approach he should simple defer the enquiry back to his Mistress; it is her decision not his.

There are usually spare uncollared slaves or pen slaves who are there for anyone’s use, these slaves may be taken and collared for the required periods by any dominant woman.

Linguistic High-Protocol
This is a written form of high-protocol usually found online, it is where all references to a Mistress are ‘Capitalised’ and slaves use lower-case “i”s. It started in chat-rooms in the very beginnings of the internet as it was the only way to identify one’s status. A little of this in an email can be appropriate, signed off with a lowercase name for example. If it’s overly persistent, for me, it just makes it too difficult to read.

Subs can refer to themselves in the third person (illeism), e.g. “Your boy has disobeyed you” or “This slave is useless, Miss”. This can be an expression of humility or an instruction from their dom as a deliberate way to objectify or de-personalise the slave.

Slaves should know their place and be kept under strict supervision

We’ve held a number of high-protocol events at The English Mansion. The photos shown above are from our Party At Dungeon Manor & a few summers ago, we held a Femdom High-Protocol Gala  see Here  Here & Here. All the footage from both of these events can be viewed inside The English Mansion.

Our Summer High-Protocol Garden Gala

The Femdom Ball
If you have always wanted to attend a High-Protocol Femdom Event then you might want to take a look at Madame Caramel’s excellent Femdom Ball and some of the other related events.

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Seeing Red – Raging Women Top Ten

Seeing Red – Raging Women Top Ten
Our musical Top Tens dedicated to all things kinky

Warning: This music chart may have offensive or triggering content.

We’re celebrating International Women’s Day March 8th with our special Raging Women Top Ten – no pink or soft focus flowers here!

This is an entirely female vocals chart with a strong showing of tracks all released in the last 6 years. It wasn’t a difficult chart to fill. There’s been an explosion from the vanguard of Millennial or Gen Z feminists, using music to exhibit their wrath and indignation at the disparity, ill-treatment & objectification of women. This chart steps outside our usual rules – that the tracks must be huge hits or from well-known artists. Although some were massive hits, the track from doyen pop queen Taylor Swift, an influential, inspirational, independent woman and one hell of a fighter, has had 1.4 billion views! However, a few of the songs here contain such direct or repressed female anger and violence, they would never make it into the mainstream. They are so worthy and such great tracks to boot, they need a place to shine. (Plus incredible videos in this selection, well worth checking out.)

Taking a look at the 45 year timeline of the tracks in this chart there’s an notable rise in anger and boldness in these female voices. In the ’70s we have Gloria passively “surviving”; in the ’90s a seething Alanis (though this track was quite shocking back then); and by the twenty-10s it’s full on outspoken rage & fury!

Seeing Red – Raging Women Top Ten
1    Whore In This Moment (2012) Play Video
2   Dead Men Don’t R*pe
&
2   Witch
Delilah Bon  (2022) & Delilah Bon ft. Alt Blk Era (2023) Play Video

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3  Behave Myself She Drew The Gun (2021) Play Video
4    Look What You Made Me Do Taylor Swift (2017) Play Video
5    I See Red Everybody Loves An Outlaw  (2018) Play Video
6   Boring
Lil Mariko ft. Full Tac (2021) Play Video
7   Nightmare
joint place with
7   Goddess
Halsey (2019)

Xana (2020)

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8   Angry Too Lola Blanc (2019) Play Video
9   You Oughta Know
joint place with
9   Psycho
Alanis Morissette
(1995)
Anne-Marie x Aitch (2022)
Play Video

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10   I Will Survive  Gloria Gaynor (1978) Play Video

Other contenders that didn’t quite make it into our Top Ten:

That Bitch by Bea Miller (2020)  Play Video
Joke’s On You  by Charlotte Lawrence (2020)   Play Video
You Don’t Own Me
by Saygrace ft. G-Eazy (2015)    Play Video
You Should See Me In a Crown by Billie Eilish (2021)  Play Video

The English Mansion’s Kinky Top Tens

Take a look at our other musical Top Tens dedicated to all things kinky

~ to be included the rules are: they must be big hits or tracks from internationally well-known performers.

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Celebrating Our 20th Year Anniversary

17 Million Visitors Can’t Be Wrong!

Celebrating Our 20th Year Anniversary

Yes, we’re celebrating a huge anniversary. The English Mansion is 20 years old! We opened the site back in March 2004.

The English Mansion is 20 Years Old
The English Mansion is now well-established as Europe’s leading femdom & fetish film site. World renowned for our femdom content: films, POVs, 3DVRs, blog posts, articles, photos, new mistress introductions, fetish news, socials, domina & kinky shopping links… We could go on because The Mansion is so much more than just a website. It’s a real Mansion secreted away in a hidden countryside location. A place where Mistress Sidonia and her fellow dominatrix friends get to use and abuse willing subs. Some Mistress’ refer to it as Femdom Disneyland 😉

The Stately Home of Femdom
So, 20 years later, we now have over 900 hours of high-quality professionally shot femdom & fetish footage. Thousands of original femdom films: fantasy stories & session style footage. And we still update new content everyday! We feature over 100 of the world’s most acclaimed & beautiful dominatrices, introducing many of them to a much larger audience; as hopefully The English Mansion’s stamp of approval comes with a certain kudos.

Mistress Sidonia Supreme Ruler of The English Mansion

Worldwide Renown & Reach
I always joke that I’m the most famous person that no one’s ever heard of. You put my name, ‘Mistress Sidonia’, into Google and get over 2 million responses. If you search ‘The English Mansion’, you get 450 million responses. Okay most of those are probably pirate tube sites stealing our traffic & content 😭, but it does show the worldwide reach and appeal of the English Mansion and its unique femdom content. And well, 17 million visitors can’t be wrong!

We set the standard for high-quality professionally shot HD and 3DVR (Virtual Reality) films, and are still going from strength to strength – not surprising with 20 years experience behind us. In some areas we’ve established what ‘femdom’ film content ‘is’ and helped bring it to a larger mainstream audience. Opening up the world of pervy sex to whole new class of would-be kinksters. Pioneering domestic FLR, FtoM strapon, femdom cuckolding, encouraged bi & kinky sex scenes, which back in the day were rarely filmed kinks but are now firmly fixed as part of the femdom film canon.

Bringing BDSM Out of the Closet
Our soft power mission has been to allow women and men to explore their sexualities in a positive safe way. So let’s cheer together! We’ve helped bring BDSM out of the closet. Trying to disspel all the negativity and ‘Hollywood criminality/horror’ attached to it. Actual scene players know how far from the truth it is. Kink is fun, healthy play for adults; kinksters are highly creative, intelligent and articulate; kinky people are able to explore their sexual desires & thus are less fucked up all round. Seriously, it’s all the Vanilla weirdos you’ve gotta watch out for! 😜

Femdom’s Soft Power
The overarching, salient message is the promotion of women’s rights. Femdom is an important strand in the battle, it empowers women not just in the bedroom. It’s more than a way for them to achieve the sexual pleasure they want from a man. It’s helps hack away at the hackneyed stereotypes about women. We’re on a mission of world domination! Empowering women using the soft power of kink! We’re overthrowing 2000 years of female oppression, of ingrained Christian sex negativity, and the continuing manipulated fear of ‘otherness’.

The English Mistress DVD & Video

A Potted History of The English Mansion
So way back before there were film sites on this newfangled thing called ‘the Internet’ (loading would have been too slow); I set up a website in the ’90s called MissMarchmont.com where I was known as Miss Eve Harper. It focused on classic corporal punishment, featuring articles, interviews, photos and a chat forum. It made money through selling CP equipment; amateur videos via a P.O.Box; and promoting our premium rate Chat Lines.  I was also approached by GwenMedia.com, run by Mistress Isabella Sinclaire & Robert Zak, American producers of the famous high-glam latex  Ivy Manor BDSM DVD series. They wanted to sell an art film I’d made of myself in my dungeon in 1998. A deal brokered by David Jackson of DDI (Domination Direct International Magazine) fame. A black-and-white dreamy piece, with a voice over, it was almost documentary like in its format, managing to capture the real interaction between a Mistress & her slaves. It was titled The English Mistress and they liked it so much, I produced 2 sequels.

By the start of the noughties Kink.com in the US was open for business, the OWK.cz in Europe & LadySonia.com in the UK. I decided to set up a classic femdom film site and after the success of the videos in America, I called it TheEnglishDungeon.com, which opened in March 2004. Soon after, I set up another site LustInLeather.com which focused on my love of leather, boots and gloves. Then another, TrannyTraining.com which focused on Xdressing but quickly decided to amalgamate all the content under one roof. So the website name was changed in September 2005 to TheEnglishMansion.com. This also allowed me to expand focus of the website to encompass other fetish and BDSM content like foot fetish & pony play. And, to play outside of the dungeon in the realm of domestic femdom, Miss Eve Harper, the evil harpy from Miss Marchmont was back. English Mansion members’ are quite familiar my strict domestic alter ego.

Thank You All
So, thank you all for 20 wonderful years of kink & servitude. It’s been an amazing ride, and I hope to continue captivating you with all our exploits inside The English Mansion for many years to come!
And, there’s bonus content for our loyal members & celebrations planned for later in the year.
Mistress Sidonia XXX don’t get excited those are kicks not kisses 😈

Don’t miss out Join The English Mansion Here Now

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Top Dom: Miss Suzanna Maxwell

Meet Resident English Mansion Dominas
The English Mansion always invites the world’s top dominas to come over, stay and play! We thought we should salute the very best of them and show you some of their finest moments. So here’s the stunning but cruel Miss Suzanna Maxwell.

Top Dom: Miss Suzanna Maxwell
Miss Maxwell is a beautiful regal domme, sylphlike with long blonde locks and a phenomenal body – akin to Barbie if she were made flesh. Intelligent and eloquent this multi-talented lady inspires worship. Miss Suzanna is a natural born domme, power oozes from her promoting a mixture of awe, fear and instant submission. With many years of experience as a dominatrix and female supremacist she enjoys training men to her exacting standards and turning them into her slaves, demanding their total devotion, obedience and loyalty.

Miss Suzanna Maxwell is a prodom based in Manchester, North UK, she regularly attends femdom parties and often travels. Specialising in seductive sadism, strapon, CBT, CP & chastity play. She is also a model & accomplished producer and you can see her in action on her clips stores or devote yourself to her on her Fan Sites.

We highly recommend you check out all of
Miss Suzanna Maxwell’s links Here

So here’s the divine Miss Suzanna Maxwell in action…


See also other ~  English Mansion Top Doms:

Mistress Courtney
Miss Suzanna Maxwell
Miss Vivienne L’Amour
Princess Aurora
Mistress Nikki Whiplash
Mistress Lola Ruin

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No Sex Please, We’re Dominatrices

No Sex Please, We’re Dominatrices

To fuck, or not to fuck, that is the question?
There’s an age old dispute that’s been ping-ponged round the femdom scene ever since the first domme, pulled on her stiletto boots. Should a dominatrix have sex with her slaves? The resulting barney falls into two unhelpful, reductive camps – hollering “Hell yes!” verse “That’s gross!” at each other.

So should a domina have sex with her slaves? That in itself is a minefield -what is sex? Intercourse, handjobs, reaching orgasm somehow, getting plunged with a strapon, kissing a shoe? So here let’s just focus on actual fucking, ‘carnal knowledge’ – that’s the taboo; the Rubicon that has sundered the femdom scene.

In the past, I’ve been told definitively, that a domme should never have sexual intercourse with a slave. I’m not sure who wrote this ‘rule book’ and certainly have never seen a copy. Personally, it’s a ridiculous supposition. If you think of it the other way around with masters and sub girls, it seems consensual sexual slavery is an exciting and accepted part of those relationships.

Pro Domination & BSDM
Yes, BDSM activities are not synonymous with sex, many do not involve any sexual contact at all. Female domination is a type of erotic play that involves consensual power exchange and control. When done right the sexual/emotional high can be way more intense and overwhelming than vanilla sex or relationships.

I recognize that in the world of commercial domination, sex does not need to be a part of it. A dominatrix-client relationship is a professional one, where boundaries must be set. Both parties must openly communicate and agree levels of physical contact; specific BDSM activities; limits must be set and respected. When I worked as a Prodom, sex was something I didn’t enter into with my clients, but that does not mean it was not an erotic experience. A Mistress/slave relationship is surely more than just a platonic friendship. A consensual power exchange relationship, professional or otherwise, can develop in a mirrad of complex directions. That’s what makes then so unique.

Sexual Submission is *Hot*
For me the act of domination is in itself a sexual one driven by my sexual needs and desires.
With my incredible sex drive, I need slaves that can give me a lot of attention. I’ve been privileged to have had 24/7 relationship with male slaves who most certainly were there as my sex slaves. The act of a man giving himself to me, suffering for me and totally submitting himself to my every whim is incredibly lubricious. To humiliate is erotic, to inflict slow sensual pain is erotic, the pure act of owning a slave is in itself extremely erotic.

My personal slaves exist to please me in anyway I choose. To sexually please me anyway I want – that’s my choice and power. Sexual slavery, sexual humiliation and bondage sex all make me super *hot*. Being a dominant Mistress, having slaves is what turns me on, that’s my primary drive for doing it, sex and being pleasured is integral to this. As my good friend Mistress T used to say, “Who wants to have a cake and not eat it!”

As a dominant or submissive woman you have agency over your own body, sexuality and desires. In all encounters professional or otherwise, the only rule should be ~ don’t do anything you are uncomfortable with.

Sex Tag Team Dommes ~ with Mistress T, so *Hot*

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Inversion Perversion: 7 Reasons Dommes Adore An Inverted Slave

Hanging Around ~ Inversion Perversion  Featuing Miss Ruby Marks

 Seven Reasons Dommes Adore
An Inverted Slave
xxx

We love upending our slaves, leaving them hanging around ready to be ‘man’-handelled at The English Mansion. So here are our Top Seven Reasons why Dommes adore an Inverted sub.

Find out about these real-life dominatrixes, prodoms & dominant women here

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