Wax Play Pt2 – An Essential Guide to Everything you ever Wanted & Needed to know about Wax Play

Wax Play Pt 2

Fun things to do with Hot Wax

a) Experiment with dripping, pouring or painting wax on with a brush.

b) There can be great artistry and beauty to wax play, this is best achieved using two or more different coloured candles, to make designs and patterns. So turn your play partner into the next Turner Prize.

c) You can make a ‘penis mould’ by totally coating the ‘hard’ area, it makes a lovely keepsake for afterwards.

d) You can make a whole body cast but will need a lot of wax!

e) It’s great to drop wax over an already hot spanked bottom.

f) You can encase a soft penis in wax, creating a wax chastity device and then tease your partner to make him hard and see if he can break through the wax shell.

g) It’s quite erotic to wax your plaything while they are in bondage and watch them squirm. It’s best to use soft old rope for this and then keep this as your ‘wax rope’ afterwards, as once it’s been covered in wax it won’t come out.

h) Mummify them in cling-film, cut out holes in the relevant places and then watch them wiggle while you wax the night away.


Fabulous New Wax Innovations
Today on-line you can buy some amazing and practical new wax play innovations! The best is a set a set of seven pouring jars with handles and spouts, each with a different colour wax from the rainbow.

You can also buy UV play wax and warm poring wax that once on the body turns to an oil that can be massaged in. Also available to buy is wax with specific melting points i.e. cooler for beginners and hotter for serious BDSM players.

The Hair Problem
The biggest problem with wax play is the cleaning up afterwards. Especially the process of removing the wax from the body. Humans are mammals, we’re covered in hair, even minute ones – so the wax will stick to the hair and removing it will be extremely painful, it’ll rip then out! It’s a bit like an unintentional salon hair waxing session. So here are some solutions…

Solutions & the Magic Answer

  1. Have the victim shave the important bits in advance.
  2. Avoid the very hair bits (pubes).
  3. Wrap them in cling-film, this does reduce some of the intensity but still works.
  4. Get them to use a rich moisturiser this helps but is not perfect.
  5. The best and sure way to resolve this problem is to rub down the areas with baby oil first, it’s magic the wax won’t stick! However, and this is important – the wax will heat the baby oil and make the sensation of the falling wax much hotter! So factor this in.

The Mess Problem

So the cleaning up afterwards… it’s not just hair that it’s difficult to clean wax from.  You’ll think you can use it carefully and only direct it onto the person but beware it’s not that easy to control. It easily splashes especially when dropping it from a height and can get on hair, floors, furniture, carpets, sheets and is extremely difficult to remove! So don’t use it with your best sheets. If you try to wash or scrub it off in a bath or shower it will block drains. So it must be scraped off first (plastic store cards & kitchen spatulas are good for this) then binned or vacuumed up.

Essential for wax play is the 3Ps – Prior, Preparation & Planning, so first lay out a cheap vinyl shower curtain, a disposable table-cloth or even newspaper for your sub to lie on. Once you’ve finished scrape off all the wax and then just fold it all up and bin it. Another option is to wrap your sub in cling-film, leaving holes for where you want to wax; alternatively just play outside.

Another idea is to make the removal part of the scene; I’ve uses abrasive sponges and shoe-brushes on the skin afterwards. Long nails can also be effective in scratching it off. Or if mess is not a problem you can just flog it off 🙂


  1. Hair, beards and body hair can easily be singed or catch fire near naked flames, often due to minute fumes given off from perfume, hairspray or deodorant on the body.
  2. Wax’s boiling point is extremely high over 300° F ! If left on a heat source its temperature will continue to rise – so never heat wax in a pan or microwave – as this can seriously burn the skin. If you are a serious player who wants to play with large amounts of pouring wax for safety I would suggest using a jam/sugar cooking thermometer, keeping the wax at a temp of between 46 – 50°C (115 – 122°F ) never going higher than 54 °C (130 °F).
  3. Keep a fire extinguisher close by or a bucket of water as a tipped over candle could start a fire really fast. Candles are the leading sources of residential fires, so never ever leave a naked flame unattended. Remember the heat above a lighted candle is extremely hot and it’s especially dangerous to use them near canopy beds or drapes.
  4. Always use candles with candlesticks/holders that way you have some where to put them while they are lighted or even better candles in jars. Make sure the holder is always placed on a stable, heat-resistant surface.

Now off you go and have lots of waxing fun!  © MSVB

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Blind Obedience – Extreme Pony Training


Over the Summer, I’ve been experimenting with taking ponyboy slave training to a new level,  I call it Blind Obedience Training. The ponyboy is hooded and thus blindfolded with absolutely no vision, he is then harnessed with an elaborate locking body harness that straps his arms tightly to his sides. Restraining his arms and elbows to the side of the body is particularly restrictive especially for cart pulling service.


Then with both voice commands and/or a series of instructions indicated through the pull on the bit gag in his mouth, he must endeavour to correctly drive me through the extensive English Mansion grounds. Unfortunately for the sub, parts of Mansion grounds are uneven with small holes and many stinging nettles, none of which can be avoided once you are effectively being made to run at speed while in a ‘sendep’ state.


As you can see unfortunately the slave sometimes isn’t paying attention… much to his peril!


As it was a particularly warm and humid day I decided I would ride naked. I enjoyed making sure he knew this of course and teased him first in the slave pen adding an extra layer of cruelty for him knowing he would see nothing 🙂


I also continued his training without the cart on the lunge rein, I like to use physical training to totally exhaust and thus subdue the slave, as once his body is weak it’s easier for me to play with his mind 🙂

Blind_ObedienceAnd you can watch all the real-life domination footage inside The English Mansion, right now in Blind Obedience.

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Sidonia the Enchantress by Sardax


Sidonia the Enchantress

I’ve recently been honoured to be featured in a series of images by accomplished and renowned femdom artist Sardax, entitled ‘Sidonia the Enchantress’.

My pseudonym was taken from the protagonist of one of the first femme fatale tales, the cruel Sidonia von Bork who enchants all the men around her with deadly consequences. (The 19thC book was based on the legendary life of a noblewoman from the 16thC.) Sardax has combined megaminoai11-the story of my namesake with my real-life adventures at The English Mansion. So in these images I enchant and enslave all the men within this very English looking mansion, magically transforming them into useful bespoke furniture or ornate decorations. Well, as Sardax puts it, “she is an enchantress so she can have what she wants.”

Goddess Love Magazine
This series of images were produced for the Japanese femdom magazine “Goddess Love”(女神の愛 ) issue 11, unfortunately this publication in only available in Japan but I urge my Japanese devotees to support this wonderful periodical, which is possibly one of the only femdom magazines left on the planet.


Morning hair-brushing

I think this is my favourite (though it’s difficult to decide). I love my haughty look; the implied tease that the head of his penis has been transformed into a comfy seat, with the ‘S’ monogram of course, I’d have had fun branding those in 🙂 ; and naturally, I always wash in the tears of male slaves. I also adore the muted colours, the reds, greens and yellow of the light falling from the window and last but not least the man-to-toilet-brush, he must have done something very bad to be punished thus.


In the Rose Garden


An adjustable swing-chair for Sidonia’s moments of relaxation.

The ‘Goddess Love’ Series
Sardax has produced a number of fabulous femdom images series for ‘Goddess Love Magazine’ in which he always features well-known real-life dominas. And don’t panic, no you can’t buy the magazine outside of Japan but you can view these images on Sardax’s website!

The Funfair


Highly recommended is both his Alice in Wonderland series, my favourite being the lobster ride 🙂; and just released his new Femdom Funfair set, one of the images features resident Mansion dominatrix Mistress Evilyne (so recognisable!). I love the two dommes waving excitedly in the background of the first image but the last of the set, the most evil one, is of course my favourite. So go here to see all these new images in their full glory and to find out about the Mistresses they feature.

The Art of Sardax
You can visit Sardax’s excellent and regularly updated blog & news site here:
The Art of Sardax with info on his recent artwork;  commissions – the perfect gift for any divine woman; where to purchase his ‘Venus in Furs’ book and lots more.

All images © Sardax 2016

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Divine Divas – New Dommes


Here at the English Mansion we have no fixed rules about what constitutes femdom – it can be empowering, sexual, fetishistic or downright sadistic with infinite other permutations. We give dominant women, switches & our dominatrixes a free rein and let them just indulge in what they most enjoy.

Mistress An Li Based in Los Angeles, US, this stunning prodom is a strict female supremacist who believes men are slaves who exist to serve her, to obey and suffer. Specialising in smoking, CP & strapon play. More Info Here

Mistress Sarah Jessica is a gorgeous Manchester, UK-based, prodom and fetish model. A born domme and true sensuous sadist, this lady’s mesmerising beauty and allure easily has slaves under her control and willing to do her bidding… More Info Here

Miss Indie Fox is a striking and beautiful plus-size dominant lady and alternative model who likes to tease submissive boys who soon fall under her spell. More Info Here

You’ll be seeing more of them at The English Mansion very soon.

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Zara du Rose’s Kinky Summer Ball


Regular visitor to The English Mansion the gorgeous Ms Zara du Rose has just won Fetish Model of the Year 2016 at Sexhibition, a fabulous Expo celebrating all things erotic, kinky & fetish. This year it was held in Manchester but plans to move to London for next year’s event.

Kinky End of Summer Ball
Saturday the 3rd September

And, this weekend, Saturday the 3rd September Zara is hosting a very special, adult only, Kinky End of Summer Ball in a large private house 25mins from London’s St. Pancras with themed rooms, dungeon, dance area, large pool & hot-tub, full bar & garden. Open 7pm to 7am for hours of debauchery! So why not come down and join the Cabaret of Excess…

For lots more details & to book see here


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Wax Play Pt1 – An Essential Guide to Everything you ever Wanted & Needed to know about Wax Play

extreme-wax-playWax Play Pt 1

An Essential Guide to Everything you ever Wanted & Needed to know about Wax Play

Wax play is a great way to inflict slow sensuous pain, each drop imparting a momentary hot searing sensation onto the skin. Erotic hot fingers caressing and penetrating your body in an entirely unique way. Wax is visual, it’s dramatic, it has an intimacy and a punch – enough to get the endorphins flowing. Applied correctly wax should leave no marks nor do any damage to the skin, it most definitely should not cause scalds or burns. Yes, it may slightly redden the skin but this should pass after an hour or so. This is one of wax play’s major advantages – pain without lasting marks.

Types of Candle Wax
It’s essential to choose the correct type of wax for BDSM play, ones with a low melting point.
a) Firstly and most importantly, so it will not burn the skin;
b) But also because to use wax effectively you need it to be fast dripping or pourable. So you need a soft wax that melts quickly while you are using it.

Candles are made from different types of wax, these melt at different temperatures. Most come from a derivative of petroleum, though there is also beeswax; tallow (animal fat wax); and natural waxes made from soy (beans) or plants. Generally, the higher the quality and cost, the harder the wax, the slower they burn. Like church pillar candles which are designed to burn for many hours as they are made from beeswax which has a very high melting point. So, this is one of the few areas of life where cheaper is better, as cheap candles burn quickly as the wax is softer and the softer the wax the lower the melting point.

Other factors may also increase the temperature of the hot wax – scented candles are made from essential  oils and oil has a high burning temp. Most candle sticks contain hardeners (sterin or steric acid,) which increases the melt temperature to makes them burn longer with less drips. The dyes used for colours can make a candle burn hotter, this is especially true for richly pigmented candles. However, it’s best to use coloured candles, muted ones, as white, the most common candle colour is not ideal for candle wax play as it doesn’t show up well against the skin, thought it can work on darker skins.

So do not use
Beeswax candles

Long burning or very hard candles (including church pillar)
Metallic, richly pigmented or oil scented/perfumed candles

All have high melting points or contain hot oils and can seriously burn the skin. It’s best to buy specialist BDSM play candles or pouring wax with low melting points they come in fabulous colours and are easy to use. More about these later.

The Test
A good rule is to always test wax on yourself first, an idea place is the back of your arm. Though, you must still remember that everyone feels wax differently and has a different tolerance to heat, even at the same wax temperatures. Dehydration, alcohol, some medications and skin conditions will play a role in a body’s reaction. Body moisturisers and perfumes on the skin can also make the wax hotter. While some people are allergic to paraffin used in most candles. So check and communicate with your play partners.

Other Factors Influencing its Temperature

1.    First drops Wax dripped onto wax is an entirely different sensation to wax dropped onto skin! So when you start dropping the wax on the skin it will be much hotter than later on.

2.    Distance I’d suggest dropping the wax from at least 18 inches above the skin, this gives the drips time to cool. At the beginning start the drops high, once you have coverage you will need to lower the wax for the effect to still be felt through the layers.

3.    Amount The amount of wax being poured will effect its temperature. Wax dripped slowly from above has time to air cool, however, wax poured from a jar from the same height and same temperature will not be able to do this. So more wax = more heat = risk of burning. While the wax is still ‘wet’ on the body it’s still hot so don’t use it too quickly, it’s a slow pleasure savour it! Also be aware it will naturally pool in depressions on the body taking longer to cool and harden so dropping more wax onto these areas will increase the heat.

4.    Skin Sensitivity Wax on harder skin like the bottom or legs will feel less hot than wax dripped onto more sensitive places like the genitals.

For BDSM hot wax dripped onto breasts, nipples, genitals, thighs can be very erotic, but wax can be used anywhere on the body. I think, however, it’s best to avoid the face, eyes obviously can’t be waxed and it is a nightmare if you get it in your hair (especially longhair) so take care. If used on the genitals, as the skin there is thinner and more sensitive remember this will make the wax feel hotter. I have known people who like to wax the tongue/mouth, I don’t think this will cause harm but care should be taken so that it does not block the air passage and given most wax is a derivative of petroleum it really isn’t a good idea to eat any of it. This is also an issue if wax is dripped into a vagina or anus, it’s not something I’d recommend but if this is something you are determined to try, make sure you get it all out afterwards.

To be continued in Pt2  – © MSVB

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