Respect – Female Power Top Ten

Welcome to The English Mansion’s Female Power Top Ten
Our musical Top Tens dedicated to all things kinky

Women around the world are taking back their power and un-limiting themselves from old, contrived stereotypes. This is a powerful top ten watching these tracks you’re aware of the might of these women, they’re angry and they’re fighting back – so be careful here comes a new generation of women and anything’s possible! With a strong showing from women of colour.

Right, here comes the post-feminist might… British M.I.A. is an uncompromising crusader for the voiceless & oppressed; and her song and the 2010 video for Bad Girls directly addressed Saudi Arabia’s then ban on women driving and may have even played a part in its demise. (If you haven’t seen this video -check it out!)

Fifth Harmony’s 2015 Bo$$ was taken up by young women as a post-feminist anthem, encouraging independence and citing successful women such as Oprah Winfrey and Michelle Obama. While back in the ’90s Shania Twain’s video for Man! I Feel Like A Woman parodied the sexist treatment of women in Robert Palmer’s Addicted To Love video see here  with its use of ‘dumb’ emotionless female models, objectified and used as nothing more than titillating background props.

Respect – Female Power Top Ten
1   Independent Woman
Destiny’s Child (2001) Play Video
2   Bad Girls
M.I.A. (2010) Play Video
3  Sisters Are Doin’
It For Themselves
Eurythmics & Aretha Franklin (1985)
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4   Think
in joint place with
Aretha Franklin (1968 & 1967) Play Video
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5   None Of Your Business
Salt-N-Pepa (1993) Play Video
6   You Don’t Own Me
Lesley Gore (1963)
Grace ft. G-Eazy (2015)
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7   Can’t Hold Us Down
Christina Aguilera ft.Lil’ Kim (2002) Play Video
8   Just A Girl

No Doubt (1995)

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9   BO$$
in joint place with
Fifth Harmony (2015)
Kesha (2017)
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10   Man! I Feel Like A Woman
Shania Twain (1997) Play Video

Other contenders that didn’t make it into our Top Ten:
This was a difficult Top Ten as there were so many great tracks and all of the tracks below could have been included.

Run the World (Girls) by Beyoncé (2011) Play Video
Hard Out Here by Lily Allen (2014) Play Video
Stronger by Britney Spears (2000) Play Video
Cinderella by Play (2001) Play Video
***Flawless by Beyoncé ft. Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie (2013) Play Video

The English Mansion’s Kinky Top Tens
Take a look at our other musical Top Tens dedicated to all things kinky ~ to be included the rules are: they must be big hits or tracks from internationally well-known performers.
Femdom Crossdressing
Sub/Dom Music to Whip Guys By
Perverted More Music to Whip Guys By
Sexy Femdom Videos
Subversive Female Power


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Hands up for Humiliation! Ways to be Mean to Sub Men

Ways to be Mean to Sub Men…

Alongside my friend & fellow domina Mistress T for an afternoon’s entertainment we set about coming up with endless diabolical ways to humiliate our pet sub 🙂

Enforced arse sniffing helped along with my boot

Treated like a dog, kept on all fours and spat at

Trampled into the mud then made to lick our dirty boots clean

Reduced to the status of a pig, rolled in the mud, then spitroasted

Piggy Spitroast

Endless shoulder riding & donkey lifts until exhausted & broken

Why should a domme walk when she can ride… on your back

Dirty piggies need hosing down with ice cold water

And you can watch all the action as it unfolded in Pony To Pig now showing inside The English Mansion

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Man’s Ruin Pt 1: Stan Dare Sub-Marine

Man’s Ruin
The True Story of Stan Dare, Sub-Marine


With the amazing artwork/comic strip by Vince Ray or  & text by Lola Klein.
And, you may notice a remarkable resemblance to our very own
Mistress Sidonia 🙂


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The Cane – The Classic English Discipline Tool Pt 2

Dominalisa-schoolmarm-earpullingEar pulling, the perfect entrée before the main course of a hard, cold, caning – here to be metered out by classic school marm Domina Liza

The Great Equaliser
Caning is probably one of the most revered of the disciplinary arts taking some time to perfect. A perfect cane stroke needs a minimum amount of effort, you don’t have to throw your whole body into it. In fact the greatest accuracy is achieved with the minimum variation of movement. This is probably one of the reasons as to why the cane is such a favoured disciplinary tool. The stature and strength of the disciplinarian is immaterial as it is one’s technique that is all-important -the cane is certainly a great equalizer for women.

Before beginning a punishment with the cane, it is really advisable to have a very thorough warm up to help prevent serious bruises and cuts. Despite appearances canes are very severe implements, so never use full force blows as they may cause damage to underlying tissue and nerves.

Caning Techniques
There are two different techniques to caning someone. Firstly with a ‘wrist only’ movement and secondly, with an ‘arm and wrist’ movement. I would suggest that beginners (and when caning in an area with limited space/height) should always use the wrist movement. It is also the stroke I prefer to use as it has a greater degree of accuracy. Hold the cane in your hand, tuck your elbow into your body and using only your lower arm, use a fast wrist motion to flick the cane at the target. If you cane without moving your wrist you cannot get any speed into the motion of the stroke or that lovely ‘swish’ noise, as you are not really using the flexibility of the cane.

naval-thrashing-canePetty Officer Wren Jessica Woods about to dish out a naval thrashing.

The ‘arm and wrist’ movement involves lifting up and bringing down your arm, putting the force of your shoulder behind the stroke, finishing the stroke with the wrist movement. The arm can move either up or out for this motion. Make sure you practice the movement and measure the stroke lots of times before beginning the punishment because with this technique it is easy to be inaccurate. If you have never caned someone before try holding the cane about a third of the way in, this makes it shorter, less flexible and easier to control. Only as you gain confidence move your hand back.

After striking the bottom you can either follow through with a stroke that leaves the cane firmly planted on the buttocks or allow the cane to bounce back and lift away from the area. Following through will make the stroke more painful and ‘thumpy’, this is because you are passing on all the kinetic energy of the stroke into the buttocks.

Another caning technique is that of ‘bastinado’  a rapid continuous drumming of the skin often used for punishing the feet. In old Public School films I have seen the punisher run across a room to administer the stroke. I don’t personally believe this will make a great deal of difference to the stroke, (except to make it more difficult to be accurate). I am sure, however, it does have some great psychological effect on the frightened recipient.

headgirl-cane-punishmentI remember this film, I was the ‘Vice Head’ Girl and he was the ‘Sub’ Prefect (genuine British School badges) I did loads of bad stuff then had him blamed no wonder I’m laughing! Here the caning is being dished out by the hard left-hander Miss Birch.

There is also the possibility of being caned in public or in front of someone. Here added to the pain of the cane is the insult of humiliation, having your trousers pulled-down (or skirt pulled-up) then your panties lowered and punished while everyone watches.

Pt 3 of this article on The Cane by Mistress Sidonia – Coming Soon

Read Pt1 here: The Cane – The Classic English Discipline Tool Pt 1

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So What Is An F.L.R.? Female Led Relationship

Lovely Lady Nina Birch is taking a firm hand in this FLR

So What Is An F.L R.?

F.L.R stands for Female Led Relationship – an intimate personal relationship where the female partner has control over the male. The nature of this power dynamic can range from only affecting certain facets e.g. in the bedroom or decision making; to total command over all aspects of the partnership.

As feminists and gender equality activists have started to dismantle and challenge traditional social hierarchies, we’re beginning to see an increase in the amount of women and men who are openly pursuing female led relationships, women who want to take the lead and men who are seeking strong, capable women.

Traditionally men have held this authoritative role within relationships, households and families but today with the constraints removed many women are finding the leadership role natural to them. And not just in relationships but for entire nations. From single mothers to intelligent business women to heads of state, women are quickly proving to men that they are just as competent. (At the time of writing this, female heads of state are incumbent in: the UK, Romania, Germany, Bangladesh, Namibia, Iceland, Peru, New Zealand, Singapore, Serbia, Norway – far too many to mention them all).

So it’s good news for both sexes as it means men no longer need to project a machismo and take on all the pressures of being providers. While it’s liberating for alpha women, (who unlike men – who are perceived as natural leaders, were seen as overbearing and bossy,) as they now can embrace their strong intelligent personas. People irrelevant of their sex can act in accordance with their own nature without fear of social stigma.

Madame Caramel is a true exponent of an FLR with her boy Joris always at her beck & call ~ Visit her website here

FLR & Femdom
It’s important to recognise that FLRs exist on a spectrum and here at The English Mansion and within the world of femdom we are primarily interested in exploring its furthermost position. FLRs have direct parallels with the 247 or owned slave BDSM dynamic and can be the basis for a sub/dom paring or even marriage. (They probably just have less rubber & leather and no need of a dungeon.)

Femdom FLRs are where the woman takes total control and makes all the decisions in her relationship. She probably won’t work instead her partner/husband will provide and cater to her every need, worshipping her like a goddess. Sexually she will take strict command in the bedroom, making and training her partner/husband to serve her sexual needs. Chastity devices, enforced feminisation and cuckolding may play an important part of this training.

Note: What FLR isn’t – it isn’t an abusive relationship but one agreed on or one that just naturally works; it isn’t one that resembles a mother/child dymanic, rather than a healthy adult relationship; and it isn’t an ongoing exhausting power struggle.

In Femdom FLRs, women are goddess to be worshiped & adored ~ Here’s the stunning Madame Caramel, on you knees boys ~ Visit her website here

Author and blogger Lady Alexa has written extensively on FLR, she herself is engaged in a FLR with her feminised and compliant husband. So I shall recite her excellent 10 Steps to a FLR taken from her blog post Developing an FLR Female-Led Relationship. She also writes regular posts and books about FLR, feminisation and male submission at

The 10 Steps To A Sucessfull FLR

There are a number of steps you will need to take to develop an FLR. Here is my own list below. Although I’m sure there have been different approaches, I believe the fundamentals are the same.

1. A list of rules and regulations for the husband/male partner to follow. I suggest they are written down and pinned up. These set the parameters of the relationship, a sort of contract.

2. Establish yourself as the female authority figure. This is achieved in many ways, not least renaming him and insisting on him curtseying (or bowing) to you. I believe that it really helps to cement the different status levels and therefore renaming is important. If your husband or partner is calling you by a cute pet name then the status level is undermined. In my own marriage I insist on being referred to as Mistress. Since I have feminised my husband as part of the FLR process he now has a female name. This approach is very effective and I do encourage it for all FLRs.

3. Remove his bad habits. This includes his personal hygiene, sitting down on the toilet, arguing, removal of machismo, submissiveness and politeness to women and so on. This can take time and is achieved through repetition, coaching and punishment

4. The domestic chores become the role of your male. He should be required to do all the house cleaning and chores including washing and ironing the clothes, cooking, doing the dishes, cleaning the toilet and bath, and all other domestic work in the house. The woman may set out a roster of weekly chores for the man to do each week. Sometimes I like to cook or even do some housework but that would be my choice and is ad-hoc at my discretion.

5. Control his clothing. I believe this to be one of the most important areas to address in any FLR. There are three reasons for this is my mind. Firstly, it enforces his status level and ensures he wears clothing you enjoy seeing him in. Regarding status, people react to clothing as symbols of position and power or of lowly status. Different women employ different techniques here but the key is demonstration of the status differential. The woman is the General, the CEO, the Chief of Police. The man is the private, the admin assistant, the secretary, domestic help. We therefore need to dress them differently. Many women like to keep their men naked at home and I also like this approach and adopt it or variations of it at times. However, in my case I prefer to feminise my husband and make him wear very revealing and very feminine clothing. Short skirts and dresses emphasise his status as a domestic assistant to me. Secondly being naked or being forced to wear feminine clothing makes the male more feminine which is a quality you need to ensure. It helps to strip away any nasty male traits. There are other ways to address this issue but clothing goes a long way to making this reality. Finally, it’s just very pleasant to see a man in a skirt, dress or naked.

6. Control sex. Some go for chastity which I use a little. In general I just prefer to be the one who decides. Control of his sexual ejaculations is a power control mechanism even if, as in my case, I allow it frequently.

7. Control the household finances. This includes taking control over the finances and the earnings of the male. He should not be permitted access to any money and should seek permission from the lady for money. It’s often best that he requests she make purchases for him to avoid him having money which can allow him to feel empowered and independent. This doesn’t mean keeping him in poverty or denying him any treats, it just means overall control. For example, I buy my husband entrance tickets for live football and cricket matches which I don’t attend. I then give him a little pocket money to allow him to buy a drink or food. I think regular pocket money is a good idea for him anyway but obviously not too much.

8. Control social activities. The female should be the sole decider of all social activities and control the marriage diary. For example, if going to watch the cinema the Female will decide what film to watch, what seat to sit in and what snacks to eat and drink. That said I will go to films he asks to go to also.

9. Ensure obedience. This is the foundation of any FLR. Discipline is therefore an important element of the relationship to ensure he complies with your wishes. Verbal discipline is the most usual way to ensure obedience but physical discipline is also part of the training and the re-enforcement. Breaches of obedience should always be met with very strict discipline, either removal of rights or physical punishment such as spanking or slapping.

10. Change his demeanour through language. Correct language when addressing women is needed. Males should use appropriate titles such as madam, mistress etc. My own husband address me as mistress and another submissive male we know uses ma’am to address his wife. Curtseying and thanking women for giving instructions is another reminder of the status level and ensures obedience.
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If you’d like a peak at a femdom FLR take a look at these recent & coming soon English Mansion films: WLR Wife Led Relationship & Your Bitch Wife.

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In Search of the Female Orgasm Pt 2

As a woman I need multiple orgasms to be satisfied, that’s why a stable of sex slaves is so useful 🙂 Here my lovely friend Mistress T is kindly helping me out making sure this tongue-slave is working properly!

The Cum Rules
I have had many different ‘Cum Rules’ over the years, (we even made a movie about them once) but one staple is that a slave must give me a large number of orgasms to earn just one for himself – hence the title of that film 50=1.

I also like to use ‘male ejaculation’ as a Pavlovian training tool; he will be permitted to cum but for example: only when my heels are digging into his nipples or when his tongue is right up my arse. The former helps to train his mind to love pain a useful trait for one of my slaves, while the latter helps reinforce his position in My world.

For a woman to be turned on and to cum is a slow and individual process and therefore something a slave must focus all his attentions onto and will need considerable training in. For me even the training is quite a turn on, lying back comfortably on the bed with a crop in hand making sure his tongue is doing what I want – where I want, while any infractions will earn him an extremely hard stroke across his backside.

So, there is too much focus in porn on the act of the man ejaculating and here at The English Mansion I’ll be addressing the balance 🙂 personally…

Photo from Just A Little Sex Toy – a new remastered version now released

Read Pt1 here  – In Search of the Female Orgasm (& Lots of Them) Pt 1

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