A Beginner’s Guide to Wearing a Chastity Device Pt1

Chastity play is a consensual practice where one partner is kept in a chaste state, prevented from touching, masturbating, or achieving orgasm except at the discretion of their ‘keyholder’. This is typically achieved using a chastity device, a wearable item made of materials like plastic, silicone, or stainless steel, designed to restrict access to the genitals and prevent sexual activity or stimulation, which is locked in place and cannot be removed. The duration of chastity can vary, ranging from a few hours or days to a long-term lifestyle choice where the state is maintained for extended periods.

Intimacy & Surrender
♦   It can enhance intimacy by deepening trust through a dynamic of control and surrender, often within a D/s (Dominant/submissive) or FLR (Female Led Relationship) framework where the Keyholder controls access to the device and decides when and if it may be removed. The chastity device may also act as a sign of the wearers ‘owned’ status. This may be through a RL or on-line relationship.

Focus
♦   It can redirect the wearer’s focus toward providing sexual pleasure or service to their partner rather than receiving it, or act as a broader tool for exerting control. It stops habitual wanking and its draining effect on the libido.

Teasing Games
♦   Used for short periods as a tool for orgasm control and teasing games, keeping thosed locked in a heightened state of arousal while denying release, leaving them desperate, pliable, and attentive. This controls their sexual desires, prevents erections, and allows you to use their arousal to your advantage, with orgasms granted only at your whim.

Self-Discipline
♦   Some individuals pursue chastity for personal exploration, using it for self-discipline, sacrifice, or to control/explore their desires and focus. 

Feminisation
♦  Feminisation, this can involve using a device to restrict genital access, aiming to control inherent male urges and redirect focus from these sexual impulses. This practice allows the wearer to explore a feminine identity or expression while also physically minimising the visible shape of the penis.

Before engaging in chastity play with a partner, it’s crucial to discuss boundaries, expectations, and safe words to ensure clear communication, consent, and a shared understanding of the play.

Closed Devices
Fully enclosed tubes or cages that cover the entire penis, often with small openings for urination and ventilation.
♦   Pros: High security, minimal stimulation, and effective at preventing erections or touch.
♦   Cons: Can be harder to clean, may trap moisture, and might feel more restrictive.
♦   Best For: Long-term wear, strict denial, or those seeking maximum control.

Open or Bar Cage Devices
Feature bars or open sections, leaving parts of the penis exposed while still restricting full erections and access.
♦   Pros: Better airflow, easier to clean, and often more comfortable for extended wear.
♦   Cons: Less secure against stimulation or touch, as some skin remains accessible.
♦   Best For: Beginners, longer wear, or those prioritising hygiene and comfort.

Belt-Style Extreme Devices
A full chastity system with a waistband or harness that secures a cage or shield over the genitals, often locking at the waist.
♦   Pros: Extremely secure, prevents removal, and can cover more of the pelvic area.
♦   Cons: Bulkier, less discreet, and can be uncomfortable for sitting or active lifestyles.
♦   Best For: High security needs, long-term use, or those under strict partner control.

Custom
Tailor-made to fit your exact measurements, often using materials like 3D-printed resin, or metal, with customizable cage and ring designs. For feminisation they offer a variety of female shape designs.
♦   Pros: Perfect fit, enhanced comfort, and options for open or closed styles.
♦  Cons: Expensive, longer wait times for production, and may require adjustments.
♦   Best For: Experienced users, long-term wear, or those with unique sizing needs.

Styles: Open/Cage, Closed, Hybrid, Belts, Custom

Hybrid Devices
Combine elements of open and closed designs, such as a partially enclosed tip with open sides or slots for ventilation.
♦   Pros: Balances security and hygiene, offering moderate restriction and comfort.
♦   Cons: May not be as secure as full cages or as breathable as open designs.
♦   Best For: Versatile use, those unsure of their preference, or moderate-term wear.
(See also: Extreme & Advanced Devices & Styles in Pt2 of this article)